What’s the difference between a man whore and a ladies man? The difference between that charming bad boy that all the women want to be with and the detestable player who nails and bails, leaving women scorned? The difference between that smooth-talking casanova who women throw themselves at and the horny fuckboy who just uses her for sex?

 

There isn’t one. The truth is that there is absolutely no meaningful difference between the two. Not in reality anyways.

 

But there is definitely a perceived difference that exists inside a woman’s head.

 

It’s called a “He-can-get-any-girl-he-wants” pass. And it’s a mental frame that your words, actions, and lifestyle can either help to build or destroy.

 

Have you ever noticed that women put players into one of these two mental categories?

 

In one bucket, you’ve got the Ladies Man who is perceived to be so high-status and so effortlessly desirable that he can “like literally get any girl he wants”. This thoroughbred stallion has his pick of the litter. So the woman feels grateful and excited when a man with so many options would choose her, regardless of how temporary the tryst may be.  

 

Then on the other side of the coin, you have “man whores” or “fuckboys”. These common mutts sleep with just as many women and behave similarly to the “Ladies Man” but for whatever reason have a completely different image in the woman’s mind.

 

What’s the cause of this gap in perception? Why do women look down on the man whoring of some while granting a pass to others?

 

The answer is status.

 

If Justin Bieber bangs a run-of-the-mill yuppie girl, her life is changed and she thanks god for her good fortunate. He’s a ladies man in her eyes. But I guarantee Selena Gomez sees him as a fuckboy. Because to her, he is of equal status.

 

If a girl perceives your sexual marketplace value equal to her own, then your playerdom will be met with harsh judgment and woeful criticism. She may still bang you if your game is tight. But you certainly won’t be granted a pass to sleep with scores of beautiful women. However if she sees your value as above her own then she’ll fuck you senseless with no expectation of commitment. And she’ll turn a blind eye to all those hair clips and earrings lying around your apartment that aren’t hers.

 

You don’t have to be a millionaire or celebrity to have a “he-can-get-any-girl-he-wants” pass. You just need to be a few rungs above her on the perceived status ladder.

 

A girl has certain expectations of an equal partner. You’re supposed to commit and support. You’re supposed to be domesticated. Your cadish lifestyle is not condoned.

 

But if you’re socially superior to her in some way, then guess what? You can have all her intimacies with no strings attached.

 

Anytime you hear a girl utter the words, “He can get any girl he wants” in reference to a guy she’s interested in, you can rest assured of two things.

 

  1. No, he cannot in reality get any girl he wants.  

 

  1. But he can sleep with her as much as he wants while also sleeping with other women.

 

It’s not a bad frame to shoot for.

 

 

 

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  • ALAN PARTRIDGE

    what kind of stupid article is this? you think a so called ‘superior’ guy that fucks around with all kinds of women is ‘superior’? LOL I’ll tell you what that kind of guy really is – a SCUMBAG who has no heart and has no self control who will I hope gets AIDS and die one day. Most whores like that die of stds because they think they are gods gift to women/men- they all deserve to die with stds and that includes SLUTTY TRASHY girls who are like that too. They’re so generate they dont even know what sex is really all about they are a pitiful and disgusting type of people to look down on not up!