Last week I noticed a spike in my web traffic and traced it back to this post on Reddit
I was pleased. Because I was starting to wonder what was taking sugar babies so long to find the article I posted a couple months ago: Salt Dating 101: How To Sleep With Sugar Babies Without Actually Paying Them.
But finally they stumbled across it and discussed it at length on Reddit until the moderator shut it down because “comments were getting nasty” .
Here’s what sugar babies had to say about me:
I see a lot of delusion and entitlement in the above comments. Delusion in that they feel their existence as an attractive female should be enough to earn them a high salary as a sex worker with no social consequences or stigmas. Entitlement that men should play by their rules and treat them like princesses in spite of their prostitution. And that any deviation from their rules must be labeled as “predatory”.
But there was actually something I read that I agreed with.
peekingsugar writes that I should “just own it”.
I assume she means I should own up to the fact that I’ve basically been running an elaborate scam over the last year. Or perhaps she’s alluding to my potential hypocrisy of enjoying sex with sugar babies while at the same time abhorring the actual sugar dating world.
And she’s right. I should own it.
I do own and admit that what I’ve done on Seeking Arrangement essentially amounts to scamming wannabe hookers into free sex. And that’s probably not a story that I’ll share with my grandchildren one day. I also realize there may be some hypocrisy to sleeping with these girls while at the same time loathing their gold-digging behavior that gets me laid.
But I’ll say this: when you see just how sexy and attractive some of these girls are on Seeking Arrangement, and you see just how eager they are to meet you and sleep with you, and you see just how many of them are not even that focused on scoring cash from you.. well you might just find yourself slipping off the moral high horse and being seduced by it all. In fact, I don’t know too many young heterosexual men who wouldn’t, given the opportunity.
Perhaps it is a little slimy to take a sugar baby out on a date, sleep with her, and not pay her.
But do you know what is even more slimy? Taking a sugar baby out on a date, sleeping with her, and then actually paying her.
Sugar dating is an attempt to engage in prostitution while skirting the social costs that have always accompanied it. Sugar babies want to have their cake and eat it too. They want all the benefits of prostitution without any of the costs. They want to turn themselves into a sexual commodity and then later down the road, snag the commitment of a hard-working faithful husband (and probably keep him clueless about her past).
It’s not that I hate hookers and johns. It’s the world’s oldest profession and it’s not going anywhere. All I’m saying is that we should at least call this what it is. Because if we don’t and this trend becomes widely accepted by all society as “normal” female behavior, then I believe the temptation for all young women to buy in and sell out will simply be an offer they can’t refuse. And that scares the shit out of me.
I’ve owned up and called out what I’ve done – run a hypocritical scam. Sugar babies and Sugar daddies should do the same. They should own up and call out what it is that they do.
Because as the sugar baby below puts it, the “norm” approach to sugar dating that should be “universally practiced” in their world (the bowl) is prostitution.
“No allowance without intimacy, no intimacy without allowance”
Or in other words: No payment without sexual activity, no sexual activity without payment.
Note: I’m currently writing a book chronicling my experiences in the sugar dating world. If you have some interesting stories of your own then I would encourage you to take the survey through the link below – All input is welcome, both male and female, both fans and haters. Your name will be kept anonymous.