With 2016 drawing to a close, I’ve spent the last two weeks of this month intensely reviewing the past year. At the end of December, I like taking time to review the goals I had as well as develop new ambitions for the upcoming year.
I started The City Bachelor in October of 2015. And it was pretty much just the result of a “quarter-life crisis” I had when I turned 25 in May earlier that year.
As my 25th birthday dawned on me, I realized I was not on the path I wanted to be on.
I spent my entire adolescence and college years dreaming about the exciting life I was going to live in my 20s and my 30s. So as I was sitting in my cubicle, having just turned 25, I leaned back in my desk chair and looked up at the harsh fluorescent lights beaming down on me. I looked over at the grey soundboard walls isolating me from the other humans. I looked at my Outlook email full of boring minutia that I didn’t want to read, tensing up whenever I’d hear footsteps approaching because I knew I better make sure it looked like I was working.
“This is my life?”
I muttered this question under my breath as yet another beautiful day was passing by outside.
How disappointed would the teenage version of myself be to know that he grows up to spend his life in a cubicle doing work he doesn’t care about?
I had to do something. I couldn’t let myself go down that unremarkable path one minute longer. I spontaneously booked a flight to Washington, D.C. to attend Roosh V’s summer 2015 lecture circuit. Here was a guy who had lived the life I dreamed about. Maybe there were answers to be found at his gathering.
It was an incredible trip where I met some awesome guys, many of which had achieved the same things out of life that I wanted to achieve.
Upon returning home, I knew it was time to finally start taking action, and I put myself on a course towards a life worth remembering.
I started writing.
Writing was pretty much the one natural talent I’ve always had. I enjoyed doing it. I was decent enough at it. I owed it to myself to develop it into something exceptional. Dating and relationship advice were topics that I had been drawn to since I discovered Game in 2011 when I was 21.
So this blog is the culmination of all of that.
I’ve now been blogging for a little over a year. I’ve had a small taste of success and I’m hooked. Growing the blog is an obsessive passion now. And I’m only just getting started.
A Few 2016 Goals I Had
2,000 newsletter subscribers
When I wrote this down last year, it was kind of a shot in the dark. I didn’t really know what kind of number was achievable but 2,000 sounded like a good place to aim for. I didn’t hit that, but at the current growth rate of my subscribers, I’m poised to surpass 2,000 sometime in 2017.
If you achieve all of your goals then you didn’t set them high enough. Even though I didn’t achieve this in 2016, I set myself up for success later down the road.
Write A Paid eBook
I achieved this on October 3rd, 2016 when Snapchat Seduction was released to the public. Unrelated fun fact: that day is the 10 year anniversary of the first date I had with my first girlfriend back in 2006 (didn’t plan it like that – just happened). I haven’t heard from her in ages. But I know she would be very proud of me and impressed that I wrote the first ever book on how guys can get laid using Snapchat.
75 Blog Posts
In the early days of this blog, I had trouble figuring out and sticking to a posting schedule. I needed to set a goal that would hold me accountable to posting on a regular basis. I decided on trying to get 75 blog posts out in 2016
By the end of 2016, I’ll have 63 blog posts published for the year, and 83 total blog posts. So I failed to hit 75 for the year, but this goal got me on a consistent twice a week posting schedule of Monday and Thursday. I’ve been hitting this without fail for the last few months now and will continue it for the long foreseeable future. You can expect 104 blog posts in 2017.
I had other personal goals but that was it for the blog. I achieved most of what I set out to do in 2016. And for the goals I didn’t quite hit, I still was at least able to lay solid groundwork for future success in those areas .
The month I started the blog, I got 111 views (barely can be seen on this graph). Last month I got 23,734 views. I could have achieved that kind of progress in 6 months if I had worked harder. But it took me a year because I didn’t post as frequently as a I should have. I found it also helps to write a few posts reviewing dating apps. I’ve seen a lot of bloggers give up after 6 months because they didn’t get the traffic they thought they would. I hope by showing this, I can inspire some people to keep going and push through that difficult phase in the beginning when no one really cares to read your work.
2017 Product Goals
I’m aiming to get 4 products out in 2017.
1.) Memes and GIFs have been an awesome way for me to build a connection with girls through humor. They’re absolutely perfect for when you don’t know what to say to restart a conversation that has stalled out. I’m putting together an eBook of 100 of my favorite Memes and GIFs and I’ll write up some comments and follow up ideas on each one (similar to what I did in Snapchat Seduction).
2.) Effective goal-setting has been a big focus of mine for the last couple years. When I was a teenager, I would write down my goals for the year and I wouldn’t accomplish any of them. Eventually I realized it was because I didn’t have a system. You can’t actualize your goals by wishing them to come true. Over time I’ve developed much better routines for accomplishing goals. I’m currently creating a monster but user-friendly spreadsheet full of visual graphs and charts to track all of my goals for 2017. I’m envisioning something with reminders and little “rewards” to incentivize routine use. When the beast is complete, I’ll release it to the public so others can use it to accomplish their goals.
3.) I’ve lived in the heart of Atlanta, GA for over three years now. It’s time to compile all of my knowledge of the area, its neighborhoods, and its culture into one concise book that men can use as a reference guide to get the most out of the city when visiting or living here. I’ll probably throw in a few personal adventure stories as well.
4.) Lastly, I will write a full-length book chronicling my experiences and misadventures with “salt dating”, sugar babies, and the rabbit hole I fell down after discovering it all. I don’t expect to release this in 2017, but my goal is to have the bulk of it complete by year-end.
I have a long road ahead of me in 2017. But I’m up to the challenge. My long-term goal is to earn enough money outside of my day job that I can quit Corporate America for good, move to Rio De Janeiro, Brazil, and pursue my passions full time. Wouldn’t that be something?
What are your goals for 2017?