I wish I didn’t have to post this article, but the 21st century demands a new skill set for the modern man. If you’re a fast swiper on the dating apps like me and you live in a big city, it’s likely that you’ve matched with a girl who turns out to not have really been born a girl. If not, just give it time.


I’ve had the following scenario play out on apps like Tinder more times than I’d like to admit.


It’s another typical Tuesday afternoon and I’m sitting at the office bored out of my mind. Instead of twiddling my thumbs to pass the time, I decide it’s more productive to do something that could actually lead to me getting laid later.

I’m swiping through profiles making split second decisions. Within one millisecond I can determine if the first picture I see contains pixels arranged in such a way that makes my penis happy. I swipe accordingly.

No need to look at her other pictures or god forbid read her tagline to see if she possesses a sense of humor or any other kind of a favorable personality trait. I figure, if we end up matching then I’ll spend a little more time reviewing her other pictures and checking for any sort of mental activity that could be going on upstairs.


My phone buzzes and a small amount of dopamine is released throughout my brain when I see that Tinder is congratulating me on my newest match.


I open my phone and see that Robin has already sent me a message. A little aggressive. After careful review of her profile, to my horror I discover a tagline that makes it very clear she has a dick.


In a fit of shock I promptly unmatch. This was my first experience matching (and unmatching) with a trans. It’s gone on to happen about ten times since then so I no longer freak out. I just let out a quick “Ughh” and delete.


I used to believe it was easy to spot someone who is transgendered. But it’s not the 1990’s anymore. Surgery and selfie angling + lighting can fool even the most observant player.


At the time of this writing, it is still fairly common for a transgendered person to have the courtesy of some way informing you of their status before you actually meet them. But with time, I anticipate that many will begin to lie or conceal their condition from their hopeful straight male victims as the years go on.  Here’s why: 


  • Constant rejection from straight men, sexual deprivation, and bitterness will make them say fuck it. They will see no reward in honesty.


  • Society will be on their side helping them to rationalize their dishonesty. Fringe feminists are already calling straight men bigots for not wanting to sleep with the mentally ill who chop their dicks off for womanhood. The progressive train won’t stop until men are fully shamed for publicly saying we wouldn’t want to sleep with someone just because they are transgender. This cultural mood shift will erode the transgendered person’s feeling of obligation to be upfront.


It should be clear now that being able to spot a transgendered female is a skill you must develop if you’re a single man. Here are 5 tell tale signs to watch for.


1. Adam’s Apple

I’m happy to announce you’re going to become an Adam’s apple expert today. As you may have guessed, this is typically one of the best ways to spot original gender. Although there are surgeries that can shave the Adam’s Apple, this remains one of the best ways to identify a ladyboy. Pay close attention to the necks below and you’ll soon be familiar with how a girl’s neck should always look. For practice, get on Tinder and pay special attention to the girls’ necks and whenever you see a Tinder picture with her and another man beside her, note the contrast. 



Woman neck 1Woman neck 2Girl neck


Not this:

Man Neck 1 Man Neck 3Man Neck 3



2. Hands

Another reliable tell is that real women tend to have dainty skinny digits as opposed to the big meaty goober-beaters seen on the right.


Girl hands 1Man hands 1


You don’t want to end up on a date like this


Man Hands



3. Small breasts (or very fake big boobs) and stocky frame

It takes a lot of surgery and money to get big boobs that are obviously fake-looking and unnatural. Most trans will go for hormone therapy that produce what you see below.

Trans boobs


4. Assertiveness

Don’t get too excited when it looks like you don’t have to game. Something is usually amiss when a girl takes on the aggressive pursuit of dick with zero game on your part. (hint: it’s because she has/had one)

This is way too logical and straight to the point. Male.


5. Uncommon Name

Most male-to-female transgenders will choose a stripper sounding name or something just a couple notches removed from a name you might call standard. I’m not entirely sure what that last one says but I know it ain’t good. 


Profile 1Profile 2Profile 3


These tips should help you as you go throughout your player career. This isn’t meant to pick on or bully anyone who is different or suffering from something that fucked up their head, but it is meant to protect straight men from having sex with people they don’t want to have sex with. As our culture continues to normalize behavior that has historically been considered mentally ill or deviant, being able to identify these red flags have helped me sidestep some potentially traumatizing situations.

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  • Emily Wells

    Brock Robinson, us transwomen are very discerning about who we date, we have learnt that pretend Alpha males have very small penises and no intuition for the art of love-making. What worries us the most is that we may accidentally meet such feminine men through apps like tinder because they are generally careless about their ;flicking’ of profiles. This is dangerous because we can be accidentally trapped into a date, as pretend Alpha males generally don’t disclose anything on their profile. But don’t panic, you can protect yourself (and us) by writing in bold red letters in your Bio, “Warning! Small-dicked man with smaller brain, seeking to trap an inexperienced cis-female.” Do this and we will thank you for protecting Transwomen from drongo’s such as yourself.

    • Cody Ryan Kent

      Can’t stand the thought of not being able to trick and trap straight men, huh?

      • Emily Wells

        Through-out my life I have noticed two items about so-called strong alpha straight men. Either (1) they have discordance about their own gender identity and find comfort in hiding behind a Transphobic facade; or (2) due to the discord with their sexuality they portray alpha male tendencies and find comfort in hiding behind a Homophobic facade. Interestingly these two trends are also confirmed in research.

        Now given your Transphobic comment – I guess your a category 1 alpha male huh?

        O’ and to answer your question. Given I am a lesbian I am not interested in men. That’s right I sleep with the same cis-females you do!

        • No

          So you’re just a straight male basically

          • Emily Wells

            What a typically male response! OK, lets see if you can get past the male superiority part and handle something that’s fairly simple and straightforward. I am a Transwoman, I experience romantic love and sexual attraction to other females so I am a lesbian (i.e. a female homosexual).

          • No

            You’re a typical male. You have an XY Chromosome.

          • Emily Wells

            First, I can see that you are now being deliberately Transphobic, which btw is a hate crime. Given you do not put forward your name, or any other identifying material, you are either a very violent person in real life or you are very shallow and unsure of yourself. Truth be known, you probably haven’t gone through puberty yet. Now to humour your question:

            1. The definition of transgender in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is: of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity differs from the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth; especially : of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity is opposite the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth: transsexual. So as a transsexual I am hardley ‘a typical male’.

            2. What you have learnt at school that people have either XY (male) or XX (female) is not correct there are numerous variations. And no I don’t have XY chromosomes, I have a small variation.

          • No

            That definition is irrelevant. If you were born male (Penis) then thats what you are.
            There are not numerous variations except in your pseudo-science. When a variation occurs it is considered an abnormality and is extremely rare, usually resulting in afflictions like Down Syndrome. Very little to do with sexual organs.

            Im the violent and shallow person yet your intention is to find out my name so you can prosecute me for hate speech because i disagree with you on the internet. Yea im the shallow person. Irregardless of whether you are transgender or not, people who threaten others with “hate speech” are lower than dirt. A transgender person I can talk to despite not agreeing with them, a person like you I cant stomach existing on the same planet as.

            You need to stop focusing on the person you are on the outside and start thinking about who you are on the inside.

          • Emily Wells

            Dear No, It is very brave of you to admit that you are violent person and that you have other personal issues. Rather then condemn you, I urge you to seek and receive the help that you need to overcome your violent tenancies. I hope things improve for you and that you have a wonderful day. XXOO

          • No

            You’re nuts

          • Emily Wells

            Yeah. Crazy like a fox!

          • No

            Get well soon

          • whowantstoknow56

            Obviously, you’re man that thinks he’s a woman….

          • Emily Wells

            No I am female and I know I am a female as such I have commenced transitioning my body and will continue to correct the errors. I just label myself as a Transwomen so there is no misunderstanding.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Three only misunderstanding use in your brain… you are a male and the fact that doctors would enable your disorder shows how far the world has slid in morality

          • Emily Wells

            I find your remark really amusing: you are frequenting a web site that is obviously designed to enable males to trick and trap young females into having sex with them and you are concerned about the world’s morality lol

          • whowantstoknow56

            How is this article enabling males to trick and trap females?

          • Emily Wells

            To quote: “I publish a newsletter once a month with Game tips, what to text her, and advice on new tools you can use to score more dates.” So if you didn’t realise the purpose, means you haven’t looked through or around the web site. Is this the only article you have read?

          • whowantstoknow56

            So your saying helping men learn to communicate with women is bad and “tricks” women but vanity fair and all those other magazines and sites that tell women the same thing is ok?

          • Emily Wells

            You know as well I do this is not a website to lean to the skills required to communicate effectively. The word Player is constantly raised, the meaning: “A male who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex.”

            And comparing Vanity Fair that covers politics, entertainment, fashion, current social issues, beauty, ect to this trashy web site lol. BTW Since you are you into Vanity Fair go onto their website, search the word Trans or Transgender and read some the articles, you might learn how to treat transpeople with respect.

            Lets look at it logically, if a male learns to respect Transwomen they will find their your newly learned skills will help them play the game with Ciswomen.

          • No

            XY 🙂

          • They DO respect them, as PEOPLE, they just don’t want to have sex with them – broadly speaking.

          • They are useful tips, if necessarily generalised.

          • Emily Wells

            Nice try with your play on words. I didn’t say article I said web site. As you know this article is one of many that is contained within this website. As you seem too literate to be that disingenuous, your here it’s an opportunity to troll or your here read the other articles and advise.

          • whowantstoknow56

            right, I’m on this website strictly to read this article….it wasn’t a play on words, it was telling you that you are assuming I’m doing something I’m not.

          • Emily Wells

            OK, I accept you here to just read this article. However, when your doing some future self-reflection, ask yourself why you felt compelled to stop write some derogatory comments about a fellow human being who just happens to be trans.

          • whowantstoknow56

            If facts are derogatory…so be it.. I’m not going to enable a mental illness.

          • Emily Wells

            The facts are, you didn’t need to stop and write anything . You could have thought to yourself. “I disagree with her, and although professional medical opinion indicates otherwise, I believe all the worlds medical experts are wrong and she is mentally ill.” and went on your merry way. However, you felt the need to stop write derogatory comments about another human being and then you question that person’s morality.

          • whowantstoknow56

            If I ignored it, that’s enabling.

          • You could have thought to yourself. “I disagree with her, and although professional medical opinion indicates otherwise, I believe all the world’s medical experts are wrong and she is mentally ill.”

            Indeed, yet has expressed them in writing.

            It is a strawman in the clause “I believe all the world’s medical experts are wrong …” as the DSM-IV & DSM-V are referred to which ARE the authority in Psych clinical practice.


          • whowantstoknow56

            Nothing I said was derogatory or directed specifically at you besides calling you a man.

            You are a man, regardless of your surgery or how you feel. That is not a derogatory statement that is a fact…..your chromosomes are the same as mine.

          • Emily Wells

            I am tired of stating the same message to you – writing, implying or saying that I am a man or that I am mentally ill is derogatory – end of story.

            As for your chromosomes being the same as mine, males have XY chromosomes and females XX chromosomes; I am intersex so I have a variance in my chromosomes, intersex people are as common as Redheads, so you may have the same variance as me or perhaps a different variance.

          • whowantstoknow56

            ALL chromosomal variations result in a form of mental disabilities, ALL are stated to either relating to a male or female.

            What is your variation?

            For Females the variations consist of how many X chromosomes there are. for example XXXY or XXXXY

            For males it’s how many Y Chromosomes

            XYYY or XYY

          • Emily Wells

            Not all chromosomal variations result in a form of mental disabilities. For example blonde, red and brown hair, and blue, green and grey eyes are from chromosomal variations. Using your flawed logic any person who does not have black hair and brown eyes has a mental disability.

            Also the intersex variations are far more expansive and complicated then your simplistic explanation. Males can inherit one or more extra X chromosomes or an extra Y chromosome. Females can be short an X chromosome or have an additional X chromosome. And than there are Tags that can also occur.

            Not that it is any of your business but I happen to be XY/XXY mosaic. Being intersex does not necessarily mean a person is transgender – it is different as chromosomes are related to birth gender and transgender is related to gender identity.The same as birth gender and gender identity has no bearing on sexuality.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Those aren’t caused by chromosomal variations those are caused by DNA variations…yes DNA are linked to genes and genes are linked to chromosomes….but your convoluting it to attempt to keep your fake reality going.

            Klinefelter syndrome (and this is a mild form) is when a MALE is born with an extra X chromosome…so yes you are a male that happens to produce less testosterone.

            That does NOT validate your mental illness.

            gender “identity” aka gender dysphoria is a mental illness. you can play these mental games with yourself but your won’t get but until you first admit you have a problem.

          • Emily Wells

            I notice four things about your responses:

            1. You continually shout by typing in capitals is if the only way you can communicate is by being overbearing and shouting i.e. does NOT validate.

            2. You consistently tell me that I have a mental illness and that I should admit I have a problem and get help.

            3. You constantly use words, phrases and language that you have been informed belittles and demeans me as a person. This is negativity is used with phrases such as ‘I accept’, ‘I am open’, ect

            4. When you attempt to validate your behavior towards trans people you bring obscure facts into the conversation, after information is provided you ignore that information and repeat 1. 2. and 3. above.

            I have provided substantial facts all of which you have ignored. For example, when told that I have sort expert help and am undergoing the treatment, as recommended by those experts, you immediately dismissed those experts as being wrong.

            I have attempted to be pleasant in my responses, you have viewed this as a weakness and used my congeniality as weapon against me. Over the last few days rather then discussing the published article and what is contained within that article, you have used this forum to continually attack me on a personal basis. You may like to consider using a self reflection exercise to evaluate your personal traits and behaviours.

          • whowantstoknow56

            1. Emphasizing words is not shouting. Context is relevant.
            2. Is true
            3. stating a fact is not belittling
            4. How can facts be obscure?
            You have stated chromosomal anomalies as a fact…. which is true.
            You’ve started gender identity is how you feel, this is called gender dysphoria and is a mental illness.
            When have I ever used your kindness against you. I have not been belittling, I have been direct and have left emotion out of it.
            Never attacked you, telling someone they have a mental illness, when they do, is not a personal attack…. it’s a notification.

          • Emily Wells

            Again the passive-aggressive. You may like to consult someone about your personality disorder i.e. mental health.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Being direct is the antithesis of passive-aggressive

          • Emily Wells, you have stated you are not a Medical practitioner.

          • whowantstoknow56

            What’s your point?
            Just because there are chromosomal anomalies doesn’t mean the people who have those FEEL like the opposite sex.

            Example you linked, Klinefelter syndrome, it happens .1% of the time… not every single one of those males, I would even go as far as saying not even 3/4ths of them feel like they’re the opposite sex.

            That’s why it’s a mental illness

          • I lean toward the psychopathology of it too rather than driven by genetic mutations, but the causes of Transgenderism, Paraphilias and homosexuality are facinating and still fuzzy, though with homosexuality it has been posited it evolved as a tribl guardian role.

          • “writing, implying or saying that I am […] am mentally ill is derogatory.”

            Just a moment, what about…

            Gender Dysphoria DSM-V
            Gender Identity Integrity Disorder DSM-IV
            (or is it Integrity Identity?)

          • “people have either XY (male) or XX (female) is not correct there are numerous variations. And no I don’t have XY chromosomes, I have a small variation.”

            Indeed there are XX/XY mutations manifesting as genetic abnormalities, each with their own spectra of symptoms and prognosis, which one do you have?


          • No

            These variations are rare enough to be classed as genetic abnormalities. Making your comment irrelevant. The vast majority of trans people were born with no abnormalities, save for the one in their head.

          • Phobias are not crimes.

          • Emily Wells

            I didn’t say Phobia. And you are in the UK I think so: Transphobia has been defined by the Crown Prosecution Service as “the fear of or a dislike directed towards trans people, or a fear of or dislike directed towards their perceived lifestyle, culture or characteristics, whether or not any specific trans person has that lifestyle or characteristic.”

          • The CPS are not medically qualified.

          • CPS are not psychiatrists. It’s not illegal to dislike people in the UK. Citizens in the UK are free to dislike who they please.

          • Phobias are not mere dislikes. They are SERIOUS psychopathologies that oft require prolonged therapy to defeat.

            And if the CPS has made that distinction they have no medical qualification in doing so abd whoever made that assertion needs a disciplinary

          • Emily Wells

            OK Doctor “And if the CPS has made that distinction they have no medical qualification in doing so” I’ll take you word or it – not! Given your a troll and a doctor you might like to read http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-online-secrets/201409/internet-trolls-are-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sadists

          • You are not medically qualified and neither is the CPS.

          • whowantstoknow56

            A) he’s not being transphobi
            B) phobias are not crimes
            C) calling a spade a spade is not hateful

          • Emily Wells

            Please do some research. Once completed you may actually be able to put forward a logical argument.

          • whowantstoknow56

            I have you are a male

          • quinyus

            Arguing with someone who suffers from gender dysphagia about gender is as pointless as arguing against a child that believes the tooth fairy

          • Dysphagia? It’s nothing to do with unease over eating.

            Perhaps you mean Dysphoria or Dysmorphic spectrum.

            Sexologist Dr Ken Blanchard has a theory it may be linked to the Autism spectrum.

          • qbert

            You’re a man posing as a woman and having sex with women. Does that not prove that you are mentally defective? Why do you feel the need to pretend to be a woman? What scares you about being the male you actually are? Is it just a way to get laid by women afraid of men? Are you simply afraid of other men? You seriously don’t see you’re crazy??

          • Emily Wells

            OK. After considering this for some time, I have decided to ignore your transphobic comments and at least provide an intelligent answer to your ranting in the hopes that you are able to actually process some knowledge to gain basic understanding.

            From your answer it appears that you do not have an understanding of the difference between gender and sexuality. There are several aspects to gender including birth, identity and expression. I was born biologically male, by age 7 years I knew I was female and I dress and present feminine. Sexuality develops later in your teen years, it is who you are attracted to and who you have sex with.

            Now, the original article is about how transwomen (yes I am a transwoman) are presenting as female and by not declaring their transgender status ‘trick’ guys into being with the. This is based on the belief that the only reason transwomen exist is because we want to have be with guys and need to trick them to succeed.

            So I have been open about my transness, however I have expressed that I am not interested in guys. This goes completely against your simple thought processes, so to protect your manliness you feel that the only conclusion is that I am trans to trick women who don’t want to be with men. So your conclusion is if I don’t admit I am trans I am being tricky and deceptive and if I do admit I am trans I am being tricky and deceptive.

            Now on being scared of men. Obviously I am not afraid of men. I have been debating with several males on this page now for sometime and all of you have come off a very poor second. Of course debating requires the use of intellect – ah yeah, sorry, I forgot those who actually believe the dribble written by this author are lacking in this trait.

          • Phobias

          • whowantstoknow56

            There is no difference between gender and sex.

            You didn’t KNOW you were female…you “felt” like you were because you suffer from a mental illness called gender dysphoria.

            That’s like a 15 year old saying they feel like they are really 21 years old so they can buy alcohol….

          • quinyus

            A biological series of mutations prevents Emily from embracing itself as a natural male it is a brain mental disorder therefore trans people are actually forced to hate their biological bodies rather than forced to the wrong body more like wrong brain they have no control over it sadly

          • I’ve a hunch Transgenderism is perhaps linked to the body dysmophias. Blanchard, et al hypothesise it may be linked to the Autism Spectrum.

          • Emily Wells

            I see your still citing failed flunkies like Ray Milton Blanchard. I have pointed out to you before that his theories have been debunked. O wait that’s right, if you acknowledged the truth you would no ;longer be able to troll.

          • No, a XY male desiring sex with XX women is straight or Bi.

          • If what you say is the case in your first sentence then surely it’s less shoeleather to just be a straight man and date straight women?

            Here’s one media commentator’s view, who happens to be homosexual, Cynthia Yockey:

            “There are men who call themselves straight who are actually attracted to intact men who present themselves as glamorous, feminine women. They are called gyneandromorphophiles.

            But yes, after lesbians, straight men are the sex most desired by transgenders. That’s because there are two basic kinds of male transgender.

            The straight ones, who are the majority, who don’t become transgender until their twenties, harass lesbians for sex and claim they are lesbians.

            The gay ones, who are born as flaming queens, are sexually attracted to straight men. They already have begun media campaigns to shame [straight] men into sex with them. 80 to 98% of the flaming queen little boys grow up to be gay and attracted to masculine men in their teens, and they become masculine to attract other men.

            The exception is if they are transitioned, then 100 percent become transgender because their sexuality was not allowed to develop.”

            Gyneandromorphophiles are a particularly interesting and relatively new finding. Whether this is a fetish or Paraphilia I will have to get clarified with the psychiatrists I consult (on an academic basis, not as a patient, I hasten to add).

          • whowantstoknow56

            No you are a guy with a mental issue called gender disphoria.

            Mr. Garrison….please leave Mr. Hat at home on your next date.

          • “What a typically male response!”

            Isn’t that sexist?

          • Emily Wells

            Still trolling I see. You have stolen enough hours of my life with your lies and trolling. Have a Merry Christmas and good bye.

        • No

          And by the way the whole “They dont like it so they must secretly like it thing” is just moronic.
          I guess arachnophobics just secretly want to fuck spiders in your world.

          • Emily Wells

            OMG! Wow! What is that all about!

          • Phobias of spiders is a real Phobia.

            Phobias of those who have had sex changes? I’ve not heard anyone diagnosed with that one.

          • I was unaware everyone who said they were scared of spiders or the dark had a diagnosis.


          • You can find cases in the literature

          • It’s not moronic, it’s been verified scientifically through controlled studies. I think you object because you like the cock. I used to object for the same reason. *kisses*

        • BetaLimaSierra

          By looking at your pic, I don’t think you’d be able to fool anyone. XD

          • Emily Wells

            I am not certain of what you mean with your statement.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            You look like a man in drag. It’s not hard to figure out.

          • Emily Wells

            So it has taken you 6 days to clarify your statement with yet another transphobic response. I guess thinking about my response made in these comments about the intelligence of this author and the readers herein I shouldn’t be surprised.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Its transphobic to point out you look like a man in drag?
            And sorry it took six days sir. Some of us can’t sit around online, searching for articles to purposely offend us.
            Some of us have jobs.
            You should try it.

          • Emily Wells

            Quick question if I may; Are you a TERF?

            Also not sure what you want me to try.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Nope. Im not a feminist. I have a life and am much more classy than that.

          • You’ve stated you’ve no psychiatric qualifications therefore how can you diagnose a Phobia?

        • You’re diagnosing Phobias again.

          • LOL @ phobias needing to be diagnosed by a professional, hahahahahahah.

            “No, timmy. no nightlight for you. you don’t have a phobia of the dark. no diagnosis! haha!”

          • Let’s not conflate dislikes or mental discomfort over Phobias. Phobias are a deep seated aversion and or morbid paralysing terror that disrupts the sufferer’s life that requires extensive progressive exposure therapy.

            Howard Hughes had a Phobia for example

            Folk by and large do not have Phobias of gays, devout religious people or a personal issue with them and other demographics, but like anyone else, dislike them when it disrupts everyone elses lives or some in that group do extreme or unreasonable things.

            And of course, the squeakiest wheels get all the attention and oil.

            sexuality, ones sex and religion are like penises.

            It’s fine to have one, even be a little proud of having it, but you don’t get it out in public, wave it around with a “look at meeee, look at meee” parade and shove it down others throats.

            Yes, we get you are a Christian or Muslim and that you think Jesus or Mohamed is the best thing since sliced bread.

            We get that you’re Gay, we get that you’re genderfluid, or otherkin, pansexual or whatever,

            Go you. You be you.

            Nobody cares. What do you want, a Junior G-Man badge?

        • whowantstoknow56

          You don’t know what transphobic means…you are using it incorrectly….if he were attacking you or running from you screaming in fright STRICTLY due to your following through with your mental disorder..then yes he would be transphobic.

          So settle down using that word sir, you’re making it meaningless.

          Also, your using the word Alpha incorrectly.
          Alpha’s males are spot a mile away by females…their calm yet radiate presence in a room attracts everyone’s attention. They are like magnets.

          Very few people have this gift…I would assume less of the population than those that suffer from gender disphoria.

          • Emily Wells

            Considering you miss-gendered me deliberately I could be a bitch and respond with something like: Your response indicates that you are either a female without empathy which is extremely rare or a Beta Male trying to bet the Alpha Males. However, I am not so childish, so lets get to case in point. Definition of transphobia as described in Merriam-Webster: “irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against transgender or transsexual people”. Now I am aware that I have written this previously however I understand that such complex definitions take time to comprehend.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Gender and sex are the same

        • What is homosexual women do not want to return the favour?
          Bit of a bind there, no? Or…?

    • qbert

      Laughable! You say alpha males have small penises, when, in actuality, it’s the mentally defective trans that do (either by nature or surgery). Trans = deception

      • Emily Wells

        Do I spot a bit of hypersensitivity. Did the comment about alpha males being small hit a nerve?

        • Eric Rahnaratentah Ryder

          No matter what gender you are or what you prefer be labeled there’s one thing that stands above all that is you are human and nothing else matters. Yes I’m a guy, a loner, a social outcast, a nice guy everyone hates the ultimate misfit who will likely die alone. But I still see goodness in everyone and you should be happy with the skin you own.

        • Projection?

    • This is hardly constructive.

      • Emily Wells

        If you are talking about the above conversation with No I agree, it was not constructive conversation hence the reason I stopped engaging.

        • No


  • Jarell Johnson

    Lots of strait men don’t want to date transgenders. Some will feel so violated, and disgusted they might attemp to hurt or kill one if tricked, and accidentally aroused by what they thought to be a female.

    • Emily Wells

      Lets look at this statement: 1. “…hurt or kill one if tricked ..”, if anything men with this type of thinking just want an excuse to be violent and abusive. Let’s changed the word ‘one’ from meaning a Transperson to being a non-white, a non-christian, a female who isn’t totally submissive, ect. 2. ‘”… accidentally aroused …”, this doesn’t happen by accident it’s called biology and occurs with physical or psychological stimulation, or both. 3. “… thought to be a female …”, that statement is intended to and is made to specifically label a group of people as being less than human, i.e. sub-humans. It is used to give reason for discrimination, isolation, exclusion and violence against a group of people with the excuse that the group does not have characteristics that are considered ‘normal’.

      • qbert

        No. You’re wrong. Men are aroused by sight. If a man pretends to be a female, and another man is deceived by the ruse, it stands to reason that the deceitful male will garner reprocusion. Non-gay men should have the right to NOT BE GAY.

        • Emily Wells

          Men like women are aroused by sight and touch and thought, for example, sight is getting aroused watching others having sex, touch is physical i.e. caressing your partner and thought is thinking about sex or erotica. Nobody said all men have to be gay, a cis-male falling for a transwomen is not homosexual. If it is what do you consider a cis-male falling for a transman to be – heterosexual?

          • whowantstoknow56

            No, it is homosexual.

            Just because they have a mental disorder where they think they are the other sex doesn’t ACTUALLY make them the other sex.

          • Emily Wells

            We actually don’t have a metal disorder where we think we are the other gender. The condition is called Gender Dysphoria, a medical condition which btw treatment is to transition to the right gender. Don’t just believe me, google Gender Dysphoria and check it out – educate yourself you will find you are a better person afterwards.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Yes it’s a mental disorder where you think you were something you aren’t

          • Emily Wells

            I do not have a mental disorder. Also I know who I am. I am confident and outgoing transwomen. However considering the number of times I have explained Gender Dysphoria to you without success, I suspect you may have a learning difficulty.

          • whowantstoknow56

            You say gender and sex are different – false
            You say you are a women – false – the only female chromosomes are in your sperm (unless you medically castrated yourself)

            Gender dysphoria is a mental disorder where you believe you incorrectly are a member of the opposite sex

            You are a male that society has enabled to pursue mutilation of oneself in order to fit their incorrect mental view of themselves.

            That is wrong of society.

            Note: I am fine with a person doing whatever they want to themselves. I don’t care
            The problem(s) I have
            Society enabling the perpetuation of a mental disorder
            You attempting to tell me something you are not and have me acknowledge that.

            So go chop off whatever body part you want, add body parts all you want, call yourself a dog/tree/whale/female/ostrich I DON’T CARE, just don’t expect me to play along with your game.
            regardless of what you do, if I see you in a street I WILL say that Dude is messed up in the head.

          • Emily Wells

            OK you have decided to just write and spew words without thought or consideration. But I am patient so to work through your points above:

            1. Sex = male and female; Gender = masculine and feminine. So in essence: Sex refers to biological differences – chromosomes, hormonal profiles, internal and external sex organs; and Gender describes the characteristics that a society or culture delineates as masculine or feminine.

            2. If reread everything I have told you, I have been open and state that I am a Transwomen. Meaning my gender identity is feminine. As explained being Transgender were a person has a disconnect between their birth gender and gender identity, although not common is not rare. Gender dysphoria, which is a medical condition, can be a result of being Transgender. Depending on the persons severity, treatment may include transitioning to the persons Gender Identity.

            3. See point 2.

            4. See point 2.

            5. You state: “I am fine with a person doing whatever they want to themselves. I don’t care …”, however your words, attitudes and responses are in direct conflict with these words.

            What is obvious is you have difficulty coming to terms with the facts that demonstrate that the world is more complex then what you have learned. These facts are creating a mental anguish for you, given the tone of your words I suspect that these concepts are creating stress and anxiety,. You probably should consider some coping strategies before you have depression.

            6. See point 5. Additionally, the threat in your message of public behaviour that will intentionally cause hurt to another human being, demonstrate you have traits and characteristics of Bullying type behaviour. Think about working on your emotional intelligence.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Sex and Gender are the same UNLESS you have a mental disorder…I WILL NOT enable or promote mental disorders for the sake of making people feel comfortable for having one.

            Like I said do whatever you want, I can tolerate that. BUT don’t expect society nor any individual to ACCEPT a mental disorder as a normal thing. It isn’t, it’s a disorder for a reason.

            No mental anguish, no anxiety…more of a compassion in hopes that you receive the mental assistance you need to overcome this disorder.

            Making someone do marshmellow/banana/chocolate butt race 6 miles down a mountain against 6 other guys in winter, making the loser eat the object stuck up the others asses, and then proceeding to paddle all of them until they bleed then driving off and leaving them to walk 10 miles into town IS BULLYING.

            Hurting someone’s feelings because you are telling them that you will not accept and will not call them what they want to be called and encouraging them to get psychiatric help for their disorder is ANYTHING BUT bullying.

          • Emily Wells

            We seem to be going through the same type of dialogue. I have respond to similar gratuitous remarks made by you previously in other sections of this thread. When you decide to respond reasonably then, and only then, will I respond to your comments.

          • whowantstoknow56

            These are not gratuitous remarks whatsoever.

            I have responded reasonably….

            You believe you can choose your gender

            Well then why not your age?

            Why not your species?

            Why can’t you say your a cat and then you are a cat?

            Why can’t a 15 year old say they are 21 and then they are 21?
            They FEEL like they are 21, they could even LOOK like they are 21.

            Why not say you are 9,000 years old because you feel that way then you could be the oldest person ever in history and have your name put down in the record books

            Why can’t you say you are a gazelle and go graze with the gazelles in Africa?

          • No, you’re not being reasonable at all, faceless coward.

          • whowantstoknow56

            How have I not been responsible?

          • whowantstoknow56

            Dude, settle down.

            Go get help, it’ll be ok with the right psychiatrist

          • There’s a woman in Sweden I gather that believes she is a cat. She’s either psychotic or it’s just a growing up phase.

            There’s a man in Germany that believes he is a 8 year old girl. It’s all over the web.

            Gender Dysphoria/Gender Integrity Identity Disorder (or it could be Identity Integrity, I forget) is listed in the DSM-V/DSM-IV as a mental disorder.

            I identify as Emperor of the known Universe, my pronoun is ”Your Majesty“.

            See the Documentary ”The Boy with no penis“ on YouTube. A tragic tale that exposes paedophile Dr John Money and his pervert colleague Dr Alfred Kinsey.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Exactly, a wide range of metal illnesses… Just like men who think they are women

          • Avner Dinerstein

            “BUT don’t expect society nor any individual to ACCEPT a mental disorder as a normal thing. It isn’t, it’s a disorder for a reason.”

            If it is an disorder so why they have changed the description of transexuality from disorder to dysphoria?
            How many books or articles have you read about this issue? Or maybe you are a psychologist who might have some insight about these kind of questions?
            They used to burn witches some hundred years ago. I was wondering why there isn’t any witch left to burn anymore? ha? Would you be so kind to answer this?

          • whowantstoknow56

            So if gender is just a human construct, that means age and species are as well.

            So to avoid paying taxes I can declare I’m a cat… but then I would lose voting rights.

            Or if I find a 14 year old attractive, I can declare I’m 15 years old so I can sleep with them.

            So that all makes sense to you?

          • Youfucking pig

            Have a question for you sir. These mentally disordered people who you are talking about, why do they choose this path? Why do they suffer discrimination, abuse, being abonant by their parents and all the curses and death threats they receive every now and then, only to be what they “think” they are? ! It is a hell of a lot to do for only a simple illusion.
            Do you jump out of the window when you are high on weed? Only because you “think” you can fly?!

          • whowantstoknow56

            Because “victims” have something to gain in America.

            People who are crazy don’t realize they are crazy

          • Jarell Johnson

            Thank you man, I wish Emily would get off this dead horse. The subject has already been answered.

          • Youfucking pig

            One question I have for you. These mentally disordered people who you are talking about, why do they choose this path? Why do they suffer discrimination, abuse, being abonant by their parents and all the curses and death threats they receive every now and then, only to be what they “think” they are? ! It is a hell of a lot to do for only a simple illusion.
            Do you jump out of the window when you are high on weed? Only because you “think” you can fly?!

      • “… if anything men with this type of thinking just want an excuse to be violent and abusive.”

        That would assume we have powers of mind reading.

        No, it’s not that, it’s a sense of deep aversion that is hardwired, it has to be as our genomes survival depends on it.

        As a straight guy, my feelings of attraction and repulsion are so profound in my being, from a purely sexuality front I find XX women attractive, XY men repellent, and XY Transwomen repellent. It’s like looking into the abyss.

        Repellent from a moral or ethical perspective? No, simply repellent from a genetic perspective. To be blunt, I don’t want to have any sexual intimacy with them at ALL, not for a billion pounds, not in a million years. Yes, even Blaire White, Theryn Meyer at al.

        Why? because I would not be able to have children with them, at base.

        Straight men are by and large fine with Trans folk, they are however irritated by this phenomenon because of the deception involved when it impinges on their personal lives and it wastes their time and the trans persons time. Here’s one major cogent example of socialising – dating:

        Online Dating apps, where -to use Tinder & OK Cupid for example- even if you pick what you are looking for, you STILL get candidates that you are NOT looking for and more importantly paid good money to Tinder or OKC to have represented to you. (And this goes for women, Gay men & women and Transfolk too), because too many are not being honest, with themselves or others by NOT selecting the correct category.

        Can only speak for straight men, but if I’d pick pick “Looking for …Women”…

        on a drop down list of “Men, Women, Gay Men, Gay Women, TransMen, TransWomen”…

        Then Women is what I expect to see and have paid to see. Anything other than that may be deceptive trade practices under the UK Trade Descriptions Act 1968, Section 13 & 14. In other words, a “Bait & Switch” in this case.

        If folk want to have surgery -or whatever- they want to do as adults, fine
        “you do you”, as the phrase goes. Yes, a Trans person may BELIEVE that they are biologically opposite of what a basic cheek swab DNA XX/XY genome test will confirm, but it is unethical in the extreme to rope others into that Delusion also.

        Tinder & OK Cupid, are, from accounts of a few male & female friends in a number of large metropolitan cities around North America, clogged with users who do not select the category germane to them.

        Anyone that is attracted to men or women, sexuality or yes Transfolk, would be understandably annoyed at their limited matches being used up by candidates they never specified. Even angry, especially if they have wasted time & money on a wild goose chase

        That doesn’t seem unreasonable to me – heck, you even get dating sites for gay folk, and Transfolk, so, by all means, use THEM. It makes it far easier.

        Here’s an illustration that’s the best I can think of off the top of my head. I walk into a Greengrocers to buy some apples and bananas, I select ones that appeal to me, when I get to the checkout I discover they are not Apple apples and Banana bananas, but wax apples and wax bananas.

        I have NOTHING against wax fruit, but if I want to buy wax fruit I will visit a store that sells them to buy them, not a Greengrocers.

        • Emily Wells

          I like most of your statement and agree that transwomen (and trans men) should be open. The reason most transwomen (and transmen) are not open is because if they are open about being trans they are extremely likely to experience hatred and violence etc.

          Jarell Johnson wrote, “Lots of strait men don’t want to date transgenders. Some will feel so violated, and disgusted they might attemp (sic) to hurt or kill one …”. Lots of strait men also like women with larger breasts, so if they get home and discover the she has ‘added’ to her breast size with padding, does this give him the right to do violence onto her. Or if the guy is attracted to a female with beautiful long blonde curls and when they them get home they discover she is wearing a wig and has no hair due to cancer treatment – does this give him the right to do violence onto her.

          Of course it doesn’t violence is unacceptable, after all just because you purchased the wrong fruit doesn’t turn you into a violent and uncontrollable person.

          • Humans dislike other dishonest humans. Less physical violence will occur if there is less deception is my prediction in Civilised nations. Mid East, African and Islamic biased nations? Not so much.

            No, nobody has a legal “right“ to physically attack another because they are believe they are what they are not.

            However they‘d be understandibly annoyed, even angry they‘d wasted their time and money.

            No, any straight man would not be angry or violent toward a woman whose hair has fallen out because of the drugs she is taking.

            Disappointed maybe, much less attracted, certainly. Violent? No, because she turned up for the date accurate to her description that she is a XX woman.

            The solution for Transfolk is to say at the start of the profile what they believe themselves to be AND to pick the ”Other“ in the drop down box as to what sex they believe themselves to be.

            My hunch is this results in few match success, and much tumbleweed.

            Given Transfolk account for -based on 2011 stats- 0.3% of the US population, this is not particularly surprising.

            Homosexuals want other Homosexuals, straights want other straights, yada yada.

            I imagine those that want to date Transfolk are a minority, so the lack of success in dating in that sphere is again not surprising, nor is there any commercial sense in aiming services at a less than 1% audience customer base and not the over 99% base.

            If any person constructs a sexuality in which 99.7% of others, both homosexual and straight are not attracted to, one can then not reasonably expect any real success in dating or social life.


            Why can’t others accept transfolk for what they believe themselves to be?

            They do, on a human level, its not against any law to believe onself to be A dragon, the opposite sex or an Elf if someone wants to

            Others will accept that a transman or woman BELIEVES they are this sex or that sex, of course, yet they wont ACCEPT they are the sex they declare themselves to be in their minds in any real sense.

            Little children often have no illusions and their ability to see straight into a person is oft bemusing.

            Adults will play along with these new temporary meta rules at that moment but young children have a strong sense of rules and meta rules as JBP mentions in his lectures on Piaget.

            Children even young adults will call out others that break rules or cheat, so to speak.

            A young child may well point at transfolk with “Look at that funny man, mummy.”

            In other words others will ”play along to get along“ in the social sphere, because, let’s face it, it causes less fuss and folk creating scenes. Yet when it comes to intimate dating matters they will draw the line.

            Again why?

            Why should that matter?

            Because it is a matter of life and death a matter of survival of the genome.

            You explained that you have a genomic mutation, what is the name of it?

            Kleinfelter Syndrome?

          • Emily Wells

            OK so some 4 months later you have come back and have written complete babble and absolute b/s. Did your latest trolling adventure fall through? However, to banish a couple of myths that you have decided perpetrate:

            You gave an example that a young child may well point at transfolk with “Look at that funny man, mummy.” Actually, if they are being bought up right by their parents/guardians, they are totally accepting. Now adults on the other hand .. well that’s why this hate column about transgender people exists.

            The reality is lots of straight guys want to be with a transgender, person they just don’t want it known publicly.

          • Indeed many straight men want to date one, of course few would take issue with that. We can all date who we want, but clearly not enough according to complaints from non medically qualified commentators in the media that preferring not to date Transfolkf means one is suffering from a Phobia.

            A ludicrous line of reasoning. I prefer not to date black women. Does that mean I have a Phobia toward black women or merely that they don’t turn me on and am not attracted to them.

            Most straight men and women are not sexually attracted to Transfolk or homosexual. However, Given Trnsexual Porno exists, there must be enough of them that are attracted.

            Whether enough to make transdating sites commercially viable is a question that arises from that.

            Given straight men who prefer not to look for transfolk are the greatest majority of the 99% it makes sense that this entry gives a field guide to general attributes within this phenomenon.

            Sexual preference is not psychopathological (except in the case of paraphilias) but evolutionary biological. For any person to hate another for their belief they are the opposite sex during their mate choice search would be illogical, irritated by them appearing repeatedly in wrong categories and wasting their money and time, sure.

            It is not unlawful to hate others because they are a demographic. I see it all the time in my current home town in NW England


            Of course.
            This article helps those like you,
            Swearing and cursing them in public? Yes that can be illegal in the UK (Breach of The Peace).

            The author of this article could, for the sake of #Equality link to a field guide for straight women who don’t want to date transmen in how to spot them, too.

            This article does help you, Emily Wells, avoid those that would have no interest in dating you anyway, so even if you find its presentation distasteful, it’s a win-win.

            Everyone goes away happy.

          • Emily Wells

            This article is not about being a guide at all, it’s about spreading hate. And sadly it attracts the lowest lifeforms in society, who feel misinformation such as this gives them the right to be violent and defend their right to be violent towards minorities.

            Even you use this article for this purpose. And that is sad, particularly as you like to consider yourself an educated person, an academic even. Although you are also ashamed of your behaviour knowing it is not reasonable, hence why you don’t write your legal name.

            As Mark Zuckberberg said people not sharing their real name online have a lack of integrity. Is this true of you?

          • “This article is not about being a guide at all, it’s about spreading hate.”

            That is your view.

            Hateful? No, are Transfolk in the ‘Trans Lobby’ -for want of a better idiom- hated? Well no. They can be be annoying though.

            “… you like to consider yourself an educated person, an academic even.”

            How do you know?

            That would mean that you can read my mind.

            “… you are also ashamed of your behaviour…”

            How do you know?
            Not in the slightest way, shape or form.

            “… you don’t write your legal name …”

            @CMdrJonty is my Twitter handle, and anyone can find me there using Jonty H. Campbell.

            “This article […] attracts[…] [those] who feel the right to […] be violent towards minorities.”

            Some may wish harm toward this minority, personally I do not. I wish them all the best in their personal lives. All I would like is them to stop wasting my time & money on dating sites.

            Most straight men, whom this article is aimed toward, simply want to avoid wasting any possible dating time with MtF Transfolk.

            That is fair enough.

            The better people identify whether they are attracted to any potential mates, the faster everyone can get on with better, happier sex lives.

            To repeat,

            as already been pointed out by other contributors AND the article ITSELF:


            The article deals in generalities and stereotypes.


            The article and some postscript commentary on MtF Transfolk identification is not germane to EVERYONE of that type, of COURSE.

            But…and it is a very big BUT…

            It is GOOD ENOUGH for very rough gross sorting of potential mates, given the EXTREMELY low incidence of the phenomena.

            However in light of this extremely low incidence, the aforementioned straight men are not concerned with the issues of your world, so to speak, and trans issues because they are not looking dating wise for folk like YOU…


            I am unsure how to make this more plain, straight men,
            by and large DON’T CARE, because they are looking for, in terms of dating… how can I put this, they are looking for people with a uterus who have not taken Testosterone or have had double mastectomies.

            OR MtF transwomen.

            YES there are men who like to date and partner with Transwomen, and fair enough, good for them, any reasonable person would support that, I support that.

          • Avner Dinerstein

            Well I am sue you are not ashamed of your view points. A man can kill his sister or mother and yet don’t be ashamed.

            I was wondering if you are a psychologist or a therapist? Since you have lots of ideas around trans women and are proud and confident where you stand. Only you sound like everybody else who doesn’t know anything about this issue. An interesting coincidence!

          • What is your thesis here?

          • Avner Dinerstein

            If a woman has evered show you affection, you wouldn’t have consumed so much time on writing and commenting such a hateful article. I believe you have a hard time finding love. So don’t worry no trans woman or any woman for that matter will ever get really close to you.

            I feel sorry for idiots like you, who think if they shout louder they sound better.
            You know that by insisting on a viewpoint, it is not going to make it true.
            My sister is trans and I am afraid of a world who idiots like you can easily put some words together , giving them the delusion of talking. Your life isn’t more important than a plastic bag. The only difference is that you make more noise.
            I have to create a thread reading: 5 ways to spot an idiot. Only I don’t have that much time to waste.
            Life should be hard for you. You are so miserable who enjoy degrading a group of people who are the most vulnerable and weak. It makes you feel strong doesn’t it you poor creature?

            Well have fun in your little world; with you little games. You will always be of little importance and influence and I am sure by now you have taken a note of that.

          • I’m not the author of the article on TCB.

          • I gather from this rhetoric and hyperbole that you disagree in some way, though am unsure what your argument is. Could you rephrase?

          • Avner Dinerstein

            Yes sure. How does it sound now? Did you figure out any of it?

          • Alas no.

          • Avner Dinerstein

            Wow. WOW

            “It is not unlawful to hate others because they are a demographic.”

            You are actually funny.

          • To refine further, as I was not being clear in that quote.

            It is not illegal to hold a strong dislike toward –for example a familiar one– black people. Illogical for sure but hating an entire demographic?

            Perfectly legal.

            It is what a person DOES as a consequence of hating, that the Law centres around. So “Hate crime” is nonsensical. Hating is not a crime in itself. Common (and other) Assault, Breach of The (Queen’s) Peace, Incitement and so forth.

            This is basic stuff.

            In the UK, there are those in the Scottish Nationalist movement of the Scottish National Party that hold animosity toward the English.

            Gauche? Yes

            illogical? Yes.



            You can express astonishment as much as you wish, yet in the UK, Law on this is clear, Criminal law is based upon EXPLICIT ACTIONS and not THOUGHTS or OPINIONS.

          • Why would they not? Nothing wrong with wanting to. As far as I’m concerned folk can date who they like PROVIDED they pick the right categories to make bulk sorting easier on apps, sites.

            In field dating Transfolk dont need to go out of their way to make it obvious they are Trans as most humans Realise in a matter of half a second to perhaps half a minute to sort people into a “Yes I find this person sexually attractive” or “no I don’t find this person sexually attractive.” whether the viewee is Trans or not.

            Straight men for example can bulk sort a group of women into yes or no in as little as a quarter of a second glance for each woman.

          • Avner Dinerstein

            Have a question for you Sir. You seem to be so confident in your view points. I was wondering if you have ever seen and talked with a trans girl? Or maybe you are a phycologist or therapist who think on these issues on regular basis?
            Since strangely you sound like almost anyone who don’t understand something and don’t even bother to think. You just pick a point of view from a basket which benefits you most. I just don’t understand why you are so keen on sharing your ignorance with others.

            You said there is someone who thinks she is a cat, and used it to make a point. Ok so why these trans people who are messed up in illusion (according to you), risk everything for their illusion? Lots of parents abandon their children, they receive hatred, discrimination and death threats on regular basis. Why do they risk everything for an illusion? Why?
            Maybe it is not an illusion! But I guess you have made up your mind and there is nothing that is going to change that, even the truth!

          • Not illusions. Delusions. Specifically mental Delusions.

          • Avner Dinerstein

            I guess you have been dumped by a transgirl and haven’t even noticed what she was until it was too late. And here is your revenge! Oh poor you! It is hard to be an idiot.

          • I have not, no. I have never been dumped. I do the dumping.

        • Avner Dinerstein

          Have a question for you sir. These mentally disordered people who you are talking about, why do they choose this path? Why do they suffer discrimination, abuse, being abonant by their parents and all the curses and death threats they receive every now and then, only to be what they “think” they are? ! It is a hell of a lot to do for only a simple illusion.
          Do you jump out of the window when you are high on weed? Only because you “think” you can fly?!

          They used to burn witches some hundred years ago. I was wondering why there isn’t any witch left to burn? Would you be so kind to answer this?

          • Why?

            The answer is unclear.

            Whether it’s a choice or a disorder or something in between is not entirely clear. Ask a Sexologist and psychiatric practitioner.

            OTOH some suggest a link to Postmodernism.

            @RayBlanchard on Twitter is a good start as any. He suggests a link to the Autism spectrum, others to dysmorphias.

      • Youfucking pig

        Cheers. It is a relive to see people like you who share their point of view where ignorance is ruling.

    • L’Huomo

      And they are right. If such a creature would do this to me, IT would die on the day I learn it.

    • Some may become violent though I’d hope the vast majority wouldnt. If a straight man found out later during the first date he can simply leave with a “I’m sorry, but I don’t feel we’re a match, good luck in your search.” And get up and leave.

      • Avner Dinerstein

        Mumble as much as you like, only don’t be so shallow and stupid as hatefuls all are.

        • Agreed. I shall endeavour not to be.

    • Youfucking pig

      You are right. but cursing and digrading trans women has nothing to do with this fear that men have.
      And please don’t try to justify and advocate something that would be considered as a potential act of murder. If you don’t want to date trans women so just don’t do that. I think a pre-op trans girl should convey her identity to her partner (before having sex) and doesn’t trick him into believing that he is with a cis woman.
      But a trans girl who has done the operation is not necessarily obliged to talk about her past life. Do you guys tell everything about your past to your partners?
      I believe a trans girl should come out to her partner sooner or later, since leaving this important piece of information about one’s identity is too important for neglection. Without honestly love cannot hold people together.

  • BetaLimaSierra

    Should add for the ladies on how to spot an ftm.
    1)scars on the pecs and oddly placed nipples. If they have scars and their nipples look strange, and you can’t quite figure out why, chances are they are an ftm.
    2)bone structure: even women with the largest bone structures do not have the same structure as men. this can be having womanly hips and shoulders that are narrow. Also look at the jaw.
    3)large scar or tattoo on somewhere on their arm or leg (you can easily tell if a tattoo has gone over scarred skin): They remove this to create a fake penis (if they choose to do that).
    4)If they get naked and they have a micro penis (combined with everything I just mentioned) you have undeniable proof. Sometimes they dont go full on bottom surgery and just have their clits snipped free and urethra rerouted to have a “functional” penis to at least pee standing up.

    Now, if you are trans, have at it. Be trans. I don’t care, but stop demanding and stop trying to and stop thinking its okay to fool people who aren’t into that. Its not okay. There are plenty of people out there into that sort of thing. Date them.
    And stop getting mad when people who arent into it find ways to tell you are. It keeps us from being dragged into something we arent into.
    Inb4: “but if you liked me before you knew I was trans youre just transphobic”
    If it makes you feel better to think that, fine.

    • Emily Wells

      Your comments regarding transmen is accurate in some instances though not accurate in all instances. When read in context with your second paragraph about trans people it reads as though that you have been in a gay or bi relationship possibly with a transman. Hey, its OK to explore your sexuality. Lots of guys like you have had or want to have sex with someone of their own gender. If you need to find a therapist who you can talk with as what you feel is perfectly normal, OK.

      • BetaLimaSierra

        Nope. I have only banged real men, thanks. Real men, with real penises that they were born with.
        Tis my sister that would have been tricked by a tranny had I not pointed out the scars on her chest and the huge tatted over scar on her back.

        • Emily Wells

          So your either gay or bi but still transphobic. OK. Whatever. (She writes while laughing quietly to herself)

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Ya know, that word is slung around so much, it seriously doesn’t bother me. I was considering getting it on a t-shirt.

            And If I have only banged men, how in the world can I be gay? XD I was born with a vagina. Meaning I am a woman.
            A real one. 🙂 sorry bro. None of your attempted insults offend.

          • Emily Wells

            Sure you are – not.

          • whowantstoknow56


          • Emily Wells

            Troll? Hardly! Sorry burst your bubble buddy! But I am a real transwoman, living a real life in the real world and not some random cowardly hiding with a non-profile making random remarks.

          • whowantstoknow56

            You are a man

          • Emily Wells


          • WhoWantsto isn’t wrong.

          • You wouldn’t be able to tell i real life.
            Just like we probably wouldn’t be able to tell you’re a douchebag.
            But maybe you do look like one, and that’s why you have no pic?

          • whowantstoknow56

            Actually it’s very easy to tell.

            Pot calling the kettle black

          • Raymond Tudor

            Youre a douche

          • whowantstoknow56

            Nope I’m a mentally stable person pointing out an illness

          • Gavin Fisher


          • Gavin Fisher

            FAGGOT KYS

          • Someone can be Bisexual I suppose

          • Phobias are psychiatric disorders, I gather you’re an MD in this field to make that diagnosis?

          • Emily Wells

            No I am not a Psychologist or Medical Practitioner.

            Definition from the Cambridge Dictionary
            – transphobia: a fear or dislike of transgender people
            – transphobic: (adjective) transphobic jokes

          • The psychiatric definition is the medically accepted, not the popular lexicographic.

          • Emily Wells

            Medically it is gender dysphoria: meaning the condition of feeling one’s emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one’s biological sex. Transphobia and transphobic are words in the English dictionary with the definitions as given. BTW lexicographic means lexicographic order (also known as lexical order, dictionary order, alphabetical order or lexicographic(al) product) is a generalisation of the way the alphabetical order of words is based on the alphabetical order of their component letters.

          • I’m considerably more familiar with the psychiatry on these issues than the average man in the street. I prefer psychiatric definitions of Phobias, not lexicographic, and practitioners do not use the OED in diagnosis and treatment, but the DSM-IV-TR (2000) & V and PDR .
            (Note Bene: DSM-V (2013) not available online as of this date)

            DSM-IV-TR (2000):

            JBP certainly does not have a Phobia of gay, Bi men/women or Trans folk. It is is likely he encounters/has encountered and treats/has treated a number in his clinical practice.

            Neither do I for that matter. Complete Indifference? Usually. Sexual repulsion at most? Yes, of course. Irrational fear or avoidance or anxiety? Absolutely not. The notion that people actually FEAR gay, Bi and Trans folk? That would be odd. Moreover we should be cautious to avoid conflating simple dislikes or preferences with Phobias.

            JBP has sat down in a long mutual one on one discussion with an audience on The Oedipal Mother with Theryn Meyer ( https://www.youtube.com/user/DominoDiaeresis ), AND been interviewed by Meyer AND appeared in televised panel discussions.


            Oedipal/Devouring Mother:

            Meyer’s testimony (along with JBP and Dr Gad Saad in a fuller video) at the Bill C-16 Senate Hearing:

            I discuss chaos and order with Theryn Meyer:

            Genders, Rights and Freedom of Speech :

            Notable for the surreal assertion by academic Nicholas Matte that there is no such thing as Biological sex, during a now-infamous panel discussion on preferred pronouns (if that’s the case, how does the Animal & Plant Kingdom reproduce?).

            Dr. Jordan Peterson Chats with a Reasonable Trans Person

            I’m Trans, and I Love Jordan Peterson:

          • I’m aware of this.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol

            So…if he/she doesn’t want to be lied to… He/she is… a transphobic?

          • Emily Wells

            In answering a number of people, I have written in a lot of my responses that words certain words and they way they are used can cause hurt. When deliberately used to cause hurt and the person is aware that it will have negative outcomes on the person that behaviour is bullying, harassment and victimisation.

            Transphobia is a range of negative attitudes, feelings or actions toward transgender or transsexual people, or toward transsexuality. Transphobia can be emotional disgust, fear, violence, anger or discomfort felt or expressed towards people who do not conform to society’s gender expectations.

            So it is not that they didn’t want to be lied to, it is that they clearly behaved in a manner to deliberately cause hurt to people who are trans.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol

            Here’s the reality: some trans are not open or honest about them being trans.
            Some trans are not even attracted to another trans, yet they expect heteros to date them or otherwise they’re transphobes (?)
            What about trans who lied or hide their identity? Don’t you think that’d hurt the person they’ve been seeing?
            People have preferences. Let’s get that straight (no pun intended). Some people are just not into trans, just like some people are not into dwarf or obese people. Deal with it.
            Nobody’s trying to hurt anybody. Life is just that tough. We will always get hurt one way or another. Everyone has their own struggles in life. There’s no safe space. If you are trans, own it. Don’t hide it, don’t lie about it.

          • Emily Wells

            The question of if Transsexuals should disclose their status to a date is always a hot topic in our community.

            My viewpoint, considering the hatred directed at trans people and the violence perpetrated against trans people, is to disclose upfront. Also I am proudly transgender and as you put it I own. However, if you read the responses on this site, the mere fact that I admit I am Trans opens the door to vilification.

            Yes life is tough however to say nobody is trying to hurt anybody means you have no idea of the amount of discrimination, harassment, vilification and violence trans people cope with on a daily basis.

            Stating that life is tough and we all will always get hurt one way or another, ect, ect, implies we should accept behaviour that degrades us as a person. So should non-white people accept such behaviour, should non-Christians accept such behaviour, what about women if they are being bashed by their partners, should they just accept this behaviour. No, of course not. No one should accept behaviour that degrades another human being, it is simply not acceptable in a modern society. So why is it deemed to be acceptable to degrade a transperson – is because we are seen by society to be a lesser human being?

            If you are interested this is part of the debate that is within our community on disclosure and dating: http://www.theodysseyonline.com/no-dont-have-to-tell-you-im-trans-before-dating-you

          • The online dating disclosure isn’t the problem for everyone, it’s the wasting of the matches folk pay for on apps et al in wasted time or money clogged with folk that pick the incorrect category…that’s the infuriating point.

            Speaking for straights, men in particular are abandoning online dating and going back to in field dating to avoid this. Which is kind of ironic as men use online dating to bulk sort candidates and cut out the shilly shallying. Unfortunately in field can be considerably dearer

          • Not at all, they want their genome to survive.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol


          • Ahem…You’re diagnosing Phobias again, “Doctor” Wells.

            Seeing though.
            Have you considered medical school to study for psychiatry?

          • Emily Wells

            Trolling again?

        • That was a close shave (literally)

    • Youfucking pig

      You are a sick ignorant sexist who is afraid of anything that you don’t understand. Like all the idiots who have been in this planet and didn’t contribute anything but to share their idiotic hateful shortcomings.
      You are sick! Men who are afraid of anything they don’t understand!
      You don’t have any right to open your dirty mouth and throw your idiotic frears at people? Like I don’t go around and tell people with less iq, like you, that they are retards and that there is nothing they can do about it. So just shut up your little monkey like brain. Your iq shouldn’t be more than 99. And that is so hard to live in this word and be a fucking retard; in that case I understand your bullshit. But again, try not to listen much to that little brain of yours! And I’m sure I’m not the first person telling you this.
      I rather die but not to be born with a low IQ. It feels very intimidating to know that you are closer to a monkey than a genius like me to you!
      Never underestimate the probability of stupidity!

      • Gavin Fisher

        shut up he’s right i dont want to end up dating a faggot if i want a real born girl

        • Youfucking pig

          You just curse whatever you don’t understand. History is filled with people like you.

          Spreading hatred is just too cheap and mean and childish.

          I have a question for you. Why a man would do a sex change to be a trans woman so all the idiots like you could curse them? or for their parents to abonmen them, or to bear all the harassments, why? Being a man is surely more rewarding than to being a woman. So why a man does that?
          The thing is that unfortunately people like you are just unable to think! Thinking is hard believe me. People like you only follow other’s footsteps, like a blind man in a jungle.
          But I just shut up now and don’t talk more so I could spare you in sending me a reply, with your curses and hateful words.

          If you don’t want to date a trans girl so don’t do that, but please don’t curse those poor underprivileged people. What have they done to you? Is it not enough for them to be born in the wrong body? In Africa they believe people with Vitiligo are malevolent. Why? Only because they are different. So do you agree with those Africans too?

          Hope we could see a bit further down the road and don’t spread hateful ideas around, it hurts everyone and it is not productive at all.

          In Dollas Buyers Club, the main character,
          Matthew McConaughey, is a straight cowboy. And somehow he tests positive for HIV. All his friends left him since they thought he should have been gay (or faggot as you have put it earlier). But he was straight to the bone. So please don’t judge a book from its cover. Maybe, i am saying maybe we are not right all the time and sometimes we have to stay back and listen.

          Anyhow, Good luck Gavin

      • Steady on!

        • Emily Wells

          That is the types of reactions that articles that spread hate like this brings. Don’t seem surprised and take the high ground, it is narcissists like you that encourage and spreed hate … and all to get your own enjoyment and fun.

    • Some great tips there.
      As a straight man highly tuned into picking up sexual cues I can expand/add to these.

      Note these are not to be taken separate as gospel but in the round.

      FTMs dress terribly as the clothes don’t fit. Any suits and or blazers look lumpen and awkward. Hollow chested. Lack of upper body and shoulder mass. Rounded shoulders.

      Peculiarly soft and “wimpy” jawline. I don’t know how else to describe it!


      They tend to be out of physical and/or pudgy doughy frame. Essentially oft resemble a butch lesbian in a suit or a potato in a blazer.

      Any beards or mustaches are patchy and odd/fake looking. Not well kept.

      Mannerisms not congruent with being a man: Walk, stand and move like a woman, runs like a woman, hip rolls like a woman when walking along with an inefficient running biomechanic

      Talks like a woman, not necessarily in tone but in subject matter. Women are interested in people, themselves, other women’s lives (gossip) and their children.

      Men are interested in things and abstract ideas. Listen for what they talk about and what conversation topics they pick up on and expand or move away from.

      They can’t Pitch a baseball well or kick a football well, in other words they “throw like a girl”.

      Tattoos yes. Also aposematism in hair colour, listen for particular calls and phrases:

      “Gender (or “X”) is a social construct”
      “Social justice”

  • Emily Wells

    This article insinuates that are hordes of transgender women hiding in the general population and waiting to trick straight males. So, I am hoping this response will clear away any confusion readers have by providing you with correct information to ease your concerns. Though before I start, I am going to be fully open, so that you are fully aware and do not feel that I am tricking, or attempting to trick, you as the reader.

    My name is Emily Wells and I am a transwoman. This means I was genetically born a male however my gender identity is female and I am transitioning to my correct gender. So I live my life as a woman and my pronouns are she, her, hers.

    Transgender is an umbrella term and means any person whose gender identity is varied to that of their birth gender. An estimated 3% to 5% of the population are transgender to some degree, in Australia that’s about 735,000 to 1,225,000 people. Given the population size, the reality is you have met, are friends with and know transgender people.

    So, unless you live as a hermit on a remote cliff top, or live under a rock on Mars, you will have come in contact with people who are transgender – either at your workplace, at a non-work gathering like your gym, your sports club or other social club, at a party, at a night club or sporting event, and even when you are out having a drink at your local pub. Hell, if you are male and actively dating, the probability is that you have already dated a transgender person without even knowing that they were transgender. That’s right they were born female and look female though have concerns about their gender identity.

    Being transgender can and does cause Gender Dysphoria (GD), a medical condition that results in real pain, distress and angst for the individual suffer. If the GD is to the extreme, the only treatment for the individual is to transition from one gender to another. In fact, prior to making a decision to transition, a substantial number of those with severe GD, had reached a situation where GD had made the person so highly stressed that they had high anxiety with depression and thought about and/or attempted suicide.

    A transgender person who transitions, or is transitioning, is known in medical terms as a Transsexual. Now not every person who is transgender and transitions or transitioning considers themselves as a transsexual. However from a medical perspective, this is the person the above article alludes towards – and what all you ‘manly-men’ seem to be shit-scared-off. So, the fact is that we do not transition to ‘trick’ anybody, we transition to live as our true gender (or gender identity) and by doing this it also assists in stopping the pain and mental angst that accompanies GD.

    Transsexuals consist of about 0.3% of the transgender population, so in Australia there are about 2,205 to 3,675 people who are considered transsexual. There are 2.5 transwomen for every transman, so using the higher estimated population number of 3,675 transpeople, we can extract that there are approximately 2,625 transwomen within Australia.

    Now, although there are clusters within our State Capital Cities, transwomen are geographically dispersed across the nation. Now you must also consider that transwomen are distributed across all sexualities. So using a 2012-2013 study of the non-trans population as a guide, we can estimate that 96.3% (2,528) transwomen are heterosexual i.e. sexually attracted to men. Further, transwomen are represented in all age groups from 16 to 106, so unless you’re into kiddies and grannies (in which case you are one very sick puppy) the probability of you actually encountering a Transwoman publicly at a club or the pub is very small. That is unless of course you are frequenting gay bars and clubs, now I am not going to judge you, but don’t hide behind your transphobia and say “I didn’t know they were trans – I was tricked.” Yeah, sure you were.

    Now for a transwoman to ‘hide’ and not be judged they must appear as extremely feminine, in fact to ‘pass’ a transwoman must look like cis-gender model. If this were applied equally to cis-women and cis-men then the vast majority would also not pass as ‘real’ women or ‘real’ men.

    This is why passing is such a controversial topic. The term itself is loaded, tainted with the implication that transwomen aren’t really women, and trans men aren’t really men, but are merely trying to pass off as such and engaging in deception. But despite the questionable meaning behind ‘passing’, there is a reality as there are those with “passing privilege” and those without – and the difference in the quality of life is overwhelming.

    In reality only a very small percentage (less than 5%) of Transwomen can pass as a cis-gender female and live their life in relative ‘normality’. The truth for the remainder (95%+) of transwomen can be extrapolated from the results of a number of surveys and studies.

    The unemployment rate for transwomen is at triple the rate of the general population with a 2015 study showing that 26% lost their job due to being trans. One-fifth (20%) have experienced homelessness at some point in their lives – this is 20 times the rate of the general population. A 2015 study reported that 20% of trans people experience housing discrimination and were evicted or simply denied housing for being transsexual. Life so great for transwomen and transmen that a 2014 mental health study found that a staggering 41% had attempted suicide, compare this to the general population where only 1.6% of the general population have attempted suicide.

    So, the reality for the vast majority of transwomen is a life where we face harassment, discrimination, isolation and violence or the threat of violence on a daily basis. Tricking you is not at the top of our priority list – survival itself is at the top of our priority list.

    This brings up the question of why Mr Brock Robinson as the author wrote this article. One thing is clear prior to writing and publishing this article, Mr Brock Robinson conducted no research into the lives of transwomen – indeed it appears that Mr Brock Robinson has decided to use a myth and to actively harass and discriminate against transwomen. These myths all have one thing in common – they justify the subjugation of transmen and transwomen. They have originated from a calculated collection of stereotypes that serves to maintain the status-quo for people, like Mr Brock Robinson, who are intolerant towards people who do not meet their perception of what constitutes a ‘normal human’.

    However, fair is fair. Given Mr Brock Robinson is an educated and publish author and I am merely a transwoman who has set out to trick and trap Mr Brock Robinson, I challenge Mr Brock Robinson to travel to Australia and publicly debate me in an acceptable arena about his article and his respect (or otherwise) for transgender people.

    • Just a moment, “An estimated 3% to 5% of the population are transgender …” what data is being cited here? That figure seems rather high (I gather it’s for Australia?), as Dr Jordan Peterson, a Canadian Clinical Psychologist based in Toronto gives a figure of 0.3% of the population, though am unsure whether he is referring to The USA or Canada.

      I would posit that given the 0.3% incidence of the phenomena in US or Canadian Populace (perhaps it refers to North America as aggregate who knows), it would be in a similar ballpark in other nations, of perhaps up to 1%. Yet up to 5%? Even in my Home nation Britain, that is a LOT of folk.

      • Emily Wells

        Remember 3% – 5% is those that are transgender i.e. there is a variant between the persons birth gender and gender identity. It does not mean they are transsexual. 0.3% is the number of transsexual with the population.

        It is a well known fact that Dr Jordan Peterson a Right Wing Christian, anti LGBT and feels transgender are an abomination of God. Like the rest of his research, the number he cites is only from his formed opinion with no peer reviewed research.

        • “It is a well known fact that Dr Jordan Peterson a Right Wing Christian, anti LGBT and feels transgender are an abomination of God. Like the rest of his research, the number he cites is only from his formed opinion with no peer reviewed research.”

          JBP has not expressed these attributions in his lectures, debates or testimonies.

          Your allegation that the figure is his own, not a citation?

          • Emily Wells

            I quote “JBP has not expressed these attributions in his interviews lectures, debates or testimonies.” It is clear you have either never read Dr Jordan Peterson nor listen to him or alternatively you have decided to your ideological spin onto his material. Just type “Jordan Peterson” on transgender into google and plenty of his hate laden material is there for the reading/viewing.

          • On the contrary, I have seen ALL of JBP’s lectures, interviews and talks on ALL subjects he gives, and have learned more from him in two months than my entire time at University – I’m not exaggerating.

        • Keely Swan

          CmdrJonty is correct. Transgenders are only estimated to be roughly 0.3% of the population. Gays/lesbians are only estimated to be roughly 2% of the general population, and I know there aren’t more trans people than gays.

          • Emily Wells

            People who are Transgender are estimated to be around 5%-8% of the population; Transsexuals are about 0.3% of the population. LGB are about 3.5% of the population, although the B% is very uncertain due to Bi people being treated so negatively. Also interestingly for every Bi male there is about 10 bi females. The extreme variance is thought to be due to males seeing bi men as weaker (so bi males hide in the closest), while a large proportion of males have a fantasy involving them with two or more women doing sexual acts.

          • Each to their own!

          • For 0.3% of demographic they are receiving a disproportionate amount of attention which, overwhelmingly, according to the many letters JBP receives, they don’t want.

            I think theres a sexologist that pioneering in findings on this, Ken or Ray Blanchard.

        • whowantstoknow56

          No there isn’t a variant….

          If you’re born a male you have ALL male chromosomes (with the exception of some of your sperm).

          • You obvoiusly don’t know about XY males. Happens when the adrenal gland produces testosterone in a fetus. You really don’t know shit. You can have either genitals regardless of your chromosomes. Not that it matters, it’s a douchey point to bring up anyway.

          • whowantstoknow56

            All males have XY chromosomes….that’s exactly the point.

          • T.N. Eagle

            If I see another person who thinks their concept of high school biology makes them an expert on complex issues, I might just give up on the world. And I’m not even transgender- I’m just a dude who knows enough not to be a complete idiot on the internet. So a little lesson explaining how “all males have XY chromosomes” is a load of bull.

            You can be a male and have two X chromosomes (XX being commonly thought of as the female chromosomal pair) but one of your X chromosomes has an SRY gene, which would give you a stereotypically male body. And vice-versa. You can be female while having XY chromosomes because your Y lacks the SRY gene, giving you a female body.
            You can be male because you have two X and a Y. You can be female because you only have an X.
            You can be male because you were born female, but you have a 5-alphareductase deficiency, which made you grow a penis around the age of puberty.
            You can be be female and have XY but your body doesn’t utilize androgens, giving you a female body.
            And that’s just humans. Hundreds of other sexual species don’t fall under such strict “male is male” and “female is female” rules. There are a lot of species that don’t even use the XX/XY dichotomy. Hell, many species change gender/sex altogether.

            So, yeah. There’s your biology. When you look at the world outside of your small minded, uneducated viewpoint, you start to realize you have no place to say shit about people.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Oh yeah, tell that to the 60 year old man that had sex with a 15 year old girl and when on trial he adamantly proclaims he’s only 16 years old and that it’s not statutory rape whatsoever. because that’s the way he FEELS.

            Are we going to let that slide?

            What about the 10 year old that proclaims that they should be able to vote or buy alcohol because they FEEL like they are 21 years old?

            You’re right, we should just let everyone with a mental illness claim whatever they want and anyone who disagrees with that person is a bigot.

            and while we’re at it, let those that are mentally ill buy firearms because they don’t FEEL like they are mentally ill.

            Name one mammal that changes sex (sex and gender are one in the same).

          • I gather it may gave been Paedophile Dr John Money who came up with the gender as a social construct postmodernism.

          • Emily Wells

            I see because Dr John Money disagrees with your ideas, he is immediately branded in an effort to slur his name. Sort of typical behaviour for a narcissist. Along with trolling!

          • No, it’s because Money was a paedophile.

          • Emily Wells

            And your proof on that conclusion Mr Troll?

          • In 2000, David and his twin brother (Brian) alleged that Money forced the twins to rehearse sexual acts involving “thrusting movements”, with David playing the bottom role.[16] He said as a child, Money forced him go “down on all fours” with his brother, Brian Reimer, “up behind his butt” with “his crotch against” his “buttocks”, and that Money forced David to have his “legs spread” with Brian on top. Money also forced the children to take their “clothes off” and engage in “genital inspections”. On at “least one occasion”, Money reportedly took photographs of the two children doing these activities. Money’s rationale for these various treatments was his belief that “childhood ‘sexual rehearsal play'” was important for a “healthy adult gender identity”.

            Colapinto, J. (2001). As Nature Made Him: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Girl. Harper Perennial. ISBN 0-06-092959-6. Revised in 2006


          • Indeed Genetics is not as black and white. There are variations, mutations, disorders and other conditions.

          • Normally chromosomal males yes. Excluding the abberations.

          • The adrenals produce Testosterone??

            Not adrenaline and noradrenaline?

          • Yes this is broadly the case, chromosomic abnormalities aside.

    • I’d like to see that debate along with JBP, Theryn Meyer and Dr Blanchard

      • Emily Wells

        O right, I am too debate Dr Ray Milton Blanchard whose studies have been peer reviewed and his results were found to be fabricated to match the answers he was seeking. Theryn Meyer, a poor young impressionable female who because of her ability to pass easily, the poor girl she found herself aligned with anti-trans people and has been left out to dry on a number of occasions, including in September of this year when she was bullied into changing her mind.And your Toronto professor, Jordan Peterson, with his flawed logic.Is this because the Author is incapable of defending his views?

        • Meyer is a bloke. Which studies were peer reviewed and in which journals?

          • Emily Wells

            I’ll leave Theryn to defend herself but for those who are interested: http://www.marathi.tv/youtube-host/theryn-meyer-biography/

          • Note for those interested in the ORIGINAL ARTICLE This…
            is a GREAT resource as it features at least 6 Transwomen.

            Chloe Arden is the most (initially) convincing, until he speaks (the lip piercing is a flag also), while Riley J. Dennis is the least.

            What do you guys think?

            Note also Brianna Wu (John Flynt).

            I would ALWAYS caution ANY man using online dating of ANY kind to do your homework:

            1. Always ALWAYS Reverse image search all the photos.
            2. Search Facebook. At the very least
            3. The WORST photograph in the profile is what they look like in real life.
            4. Use the makeup remover app for iOS and android for photos.

        • Yes debate him in a moderated forum.

          • Emily Wells

            6 months latter and the silence from the author is deafening.

        • Avner Dinerstein

          I think Dr Ray Milton Blanchard has made some points which make sense to me. But he is an idiot when it comes to naming and conceptualizing his ideas, like homosexual transexual! This is very stupid. And the comment about IQ too.
          Other than these I have to say that I somehow, relate to this categorization. There seems to be some differences in how a trans person think, feel and identify regarding the gender they belong to. But this concept is too shallow and needs a thorough investigation and research.

  • Larry Lovestein

    Why does Emily Wells feel compelled to educate us all about transgenderism? The article is spot on – I started to encounter a number of trans women on Tinder. Many of them though do mention on their profile that they are trans, so at least that’s cool. However, it is getting harder to discern when you meet women at clubs, etc. Some trans women pass exceptionally well as bio women; however some just look like men in dresses (e.g., Emily Wells).

    • There are many resources online that give tips on what to look out for and there are many, many tells. Always trust your instinct, particularly if you get what has been dubbed the ‘uncanny valley’ feeling.

    • Emily Wells

      You were actually doing really well in putting forward a position, until just had to be a negative person with the last part of your comment.

    • That’s the rub. If you realise 99.7% of occupants of a social sphere are NOT sexually attracted to you, and you attend for romantic reasons, so to speak, you’re wasting your time and other’s time.

      For the same from reason I dont attend gay men or women oriented bars. Opposite’s attract.

      I posit everyone on this thread understands completely that there are men and women who believe themselves to be the opposite, and that’s fine.

      They can believe that until Doomsday, but gay men and women aside, straight nen want genetic women and straight women want genetic men.

      The uncanny valley cannot be ignored. It’s hardwired and baked in for survival reasons.

      Believing myself to be a woman and getting a sex change wont change that.

      And here’s the rub JBP is driving at:

      Societies have mutually negotiated “rules” of “meta games”, negotiated and refined over centuries, even millennia in order to facilitate “play”, as it were.

      If one INSISTS that you or a subgroup have your OWN proprietary set of rules of the game, and INSIST others by and large change the fundamental rules of the game to accommodate you and your group, one can not tgen be surprised if others refuse to “play” with you.

      You become the kid that nobody wants to play with.

      Ya dig?

  • Mike

    I have just ended a very close and loving relationship with a beautiful and totally convincing transgender female, it was hot, loving, caring and she was as sweet as any CIS female I have ever known.

    My personal problem was her sex drive, initially I was full on into it but after time I got tired of her insatiable appetite and worst of all her obsession with cock. She seemed to be always on the lookout, her Facebook, Tinder and Whatsapp would bing all day and night.

    I really loved her (and still do) and when we split she was devastated but I had to get out to maintain my sanity.

    • Milo Yiannoppolous said “Trannies are gay”. I think Camille Paglia said something similar, so maybe that’s why HE was obsessed with men.

  • Lee Asch

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/707962b47b53365e42717be87ff039b7478bdf24b062de690c15f90a3b3e55b2.jpg Came across this article by accident. It is so stupid, I had to laugh…..and comment. First of all, I’m female….born that way & intend to stay that way….and just for the record, I like dick, straight as an arrow, but have nothing against gays. First of all , this whole adam’s apple thing is a myth. I was cursed with one so large, I was often asked if I had swallowed a golf ball. The only good thing about putting on a pile of weight ( I’m 54 years young) , is that it is now hidden under a roll of fat. About my hands, It’s just about impossible to find a woman’s ring in a 13. Trust me, I have tried. My feet aren’t exactly tiny either. I think the only way to really find out if a she is really a he, is to grab the bull by the horn, literally. If it has a dick, you have your answer. I’m not too sure I’m okay with this whole transgender thing. Gay, I can understand, but butchering up one’s body is not exactly my definition of sanity. I’m really not a fan of plastic surgery, either…..unless your face was messed up in an accident or something. I think the whole world has gone nuckin’ futs. Enjoy the pic…me at 15.

  • Martha-Sophie Sprucklick

    You are just a bigot and an idiot.

    Trans* women are women. Men who fall for women are called heterosexual; that means you are not suddenly gay because you find a trans* woman attractive.

    Of course a non-operated trans* woman should tell potential sex partners about her unusual anatomy before actually making out, and it is totally ok for men not to want to have sex with her because of that. But it is not a reason to kill her.

    Yes, to kill her.

    There is one, and only one reason for trans* folks, post-operative or not, to disclose their status even before a first date – they want to survive.

    Their little birth defect, when discovered, can drive some men truly crazy; crazy enough to earn themselves a knife to the heart. So it is definitely better to sort those out beforehand.

  • Youfucking pig

    You fucking pig! You think you are a man since you can walk on two legs?
    You are a fucking pig who needs to be slaughtered. Retard!

  • Aaron Jones

    This article really is horrible, I’m sorry to all the trans people, especially trans girls who happened to read this.

  • Raymond Tudor

    I am a transwoman and im proud of it. You cant tell me from other girls in society and i am happily in love with a woman

  • Anna Tudor

    I love life as a TG. Im very feminine acting and cant distinguish me from any other female on the street.

    • Oh? Post a few photos and we shall see if any of us can.

      Interestingly, and I do not want to misunderstand you here, you earnestly BELIEVE you are a woman yes?

      If that is the case why then use the phraseology “feminine acting”.

      If one is acting that is pretending, yes?

      • Emily Wells

        She has just told you that she is a transgender. Of course your going to look at the photos and say ‘You look Trans to me!’. Still trolling huh?. Don’t forget to read: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-online-secrets/201409/internet-trolls-are-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sadists

        • On the contrary. The challenge made was if others can distinguish Anna Tudor from women in the street. I posit it Is possible and further, would Refine the aim of this article further, which is to enable -it would seem- straight men and transwomen to make better mating choices.

          • Emily Wells

            What were you going to do, publish her photo on social media and ask the question ‘Does this person look trans to you?’. The reality is that there are transgender people who pass in the gender identity that life has assigned them. This is even more likely if intervention is commenced at a younger age. Your response to my comment shows that your original response to Anna was very disingenuous and designed to ‘troll’.

          • The challenge asserted By Tudor to the viewers onnthis commentary is whether Tudor looks like a woman or a man.

          • Not what I was going to do but what Tudor would be prepared to do. Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.

          • Emily Wells

            By 18 the body has been through puberty and the damage is done. A person transitioning after puberty has a much harder time. They are also more likely not to pass and face a lifetime of bigotry. O wait that’s right you feel that all transgender people deserve to be hated. Sorry Mr Troll.

          • “By 18 the body has been through puberty and the damage is done”

            Excuse me??


            Endocrinological finalisation is “damage”?

            FYI, bigotry is not unwarranted discrimination:


        • And you’re not Anna Tudor.

          • Emily Wells

            No you are right I am not Anna Tudor, you might say I just feel an maternal instinct to protect other people who are vulnerable from your narcissistic personality.

          • Asztal

            “Maternal instinct” roflmao
            Thanks for making me laugh

          • Well having a uterus would be de rigueur there, I dare say.

          • “Narsissistic personality?”, Emily Wells MD.?

        • I’d probably say, “no, to me you look like a man.” But Tudor may be more convincing as Meyer, Blaire White et al so would need a little linger to scrutinise.

          Still photos are not as fast for bulk mate selection sorting as live in field as still photos on tinder can be manipulated or shopped:

          Some real world examples.

          Lighting & makeup (fortunately there is a handy iphone app that digitally “removes” makeup)

          Camera angles to conceal poor health – infamous FGOP tactic. Fat Girl Overhead Photo, elingates perspective to give appearance of taller, leaner body.

          And so forth. In fact there is so many tactics and counter tactics used in online dating it would require a good article of its own!

  • Robert Perrigo

    And knee caps are different between a man & woman .

    • Elbows too, and third finger is longer than the index in men.

  • nknk.

    fuck the author of this article & fuck this article. anyone who thinks trans people are out to get straight guys is an idiot. HE JUST GOOGLE SEARCHED ‘TRANS GIRL TINDR’ and took the first pics he found as his ‘proof’. Those screenshots he posted has are probably fake, too. How about a more useful article – HOW TO AVOID DOUCEBAGS LIKE ‘THECITYBACHELOR’ ON TINDR. OR HOW TO AVOID BEING DRUGGED AND RAPED BY ‘THECITYBACHELOR’ … are titles right up this author’s alley, trust and believe