I wish I didn’t have to post this article, but the 21st century demands a new skill set for the modern man. If you’re a fast swiper on the dating apps like me and you live in a big city, it’s likely that you’ve matched with a girl who turns out to not have really been born a girl. If not, just give it time.


I’ve had the following scenario play out on apps like Tinder more times than I’d like to admit.


It’s another typical Tuesday afternoon and I’m sitting at the office bored out of my mind. Instead of twiddling my thumbs to pass the time, I decide it’s more productive to do something that could actually lead to me getting laid later.

I’m swiping through profiles making split second decisions. Within one millisecond I can determine if the first picture I see contains pixels arranged in such a way that makes my penis happy. I swipe accordingly.

No need to look at her other pictures or god forbid read her tagline to see if she possesses a sense of humor or any other kind of a favorable personality trait. I figure, if we end up matching then I’ll spend a little more time reviewing her other pictures and checking for any sort of mental activity that could be going on upstairs.


My phone buzzes and a small amount of dopamine is released throughout my brain when I see that Tinder is congratulating me on my newest match.


I open my phone and see that Robin has already sent me a message. A little aggressive. After careful review of her profile, to my horror I discover a tagline that makes it very clear she has a dick.


In a fit of shock I promptly unmatch. This was my first experience matching (and unmatching) with a trans. It’s gone on to happen about ten times since then so I no longer freak out. I just let out a quick “Ughh” and delete.


I used to believe it was easy to spot someone who is transgendered. But it’s not the 1990’s anymore. Surgery and selfie angling + lighting can fool even the most observant player.


At the time of this writing, it is still fairly common for a transgendered person to have the courtesy of some way informing you of their status before you actually meet them. But with time, I anticipate that many will begin to lie or conceal their condition from their hopeful straight male victims as the years go on.  Here’s why: 


  • Constant rejection from straight men, sexual deprivation, and bitterness will make them say fuck it. They will see no reward in honesty.


  • Society will be on their side helping them to rationalize their dishonesty. Fringe feminists are already calling straight men bigots for not wanting to sleep with the mentally ill who chop their dicks off for womanhood. The progressive train won’t stop until men are fully shamed for publicly saying we wouldn’t want to sleep with someone just because they are transgender. This cultural mood shift will erode the transgendered person’s feeling of obligation to be upfront.


It should be clear now that being able to spot a transgendered female is a skill you must develop if you’re a single man. Here are 5 tell tale signs to watch for.


1. Adam’s Apple

I’m happy to announce you’re going to become an Adam’s apple expert today. As you may have guessed, this is typically one of the best ways to spot original gender. Although there are surgeries that can shave the Adam’s Apple, this remains one of the best ways to identify a ladyboy. Pay close attention to the necks below and you’ll soon be familiar with how a girl’s neck should always look. For practice, get on Tinder and pay special attention to the girls’ necks and whenever you see a Tinder picture with her and another man beside her, note the contrast. 



Woman neck 1Woman neck 2Girl neck


Not this:

Man Neck 1 Man Neck 3Man Neck 3



2. Hands

Another reliable tell is that real women tend to have dainty skinny digits as opposed to the big meaty goober-beaters seen on the right.


Girl hands 1Man hands 1


You don’t want to end up on a date like this


Man Hands



3. Small breasts (or very fake big boobs) and stocky frame

It takes a lot of surgery and money to get big boobs that are obviously fake-looking and unnatural. Most trans will go for hormone therapy that produce what you see below.

Trans boobs


4. Assertiveness

Don’t get too excited when it looks like you don’t have to game. Something is usually amiss when a girl takes on the aggressive pursuit of dick with zero game on your part. (hint: it’s because she has/had one)

This is way too logical and straight to the point. Male.


5. Uncommon Name

Most male-to-female transgenders will choose a stripper sounding name or something just a couple notches removed from a name you might call standard. I’m not entirely sure what that last one says but I know it ain’t good. 


Profile 1Profile 2Profile 3


These tips should help you as you go throughout your player career. This isn’t meant to pick on or bully anyone who is different or suffering from something that fucked up their head, but it is meant to protect straight men from having sex with people they don’t want to have sex with. As our culture continues to normalize behavior that has historically been considered mentally ill or deviant, being able to identify these red flags have helped me sidestep some potentially traumatizing situations.

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  • Emily Wells

    Brock Robinson, us transwomen are very discerning about who we date, we have learnt that pretend Alpha males have very small penises and no intuition for the art of love-making. What worries us the most is that we may accidentally meet such feminine men through apps like tinder because they are generally careless about their ;flicking’ of profiles. This is dangerous because we can be accidentally trapped into a date, as pretend Alpha males generally don’t disclose anything on their profile. But don’t panic, you can protect yourself (and us) by writing in bold red letters in your Bio, “Warning! Small-dicked man with smaller brain, seeking to trap an inexperienced cis-female.” Do this and we will thank you for protecting Transwomen from drongo’s such as yourself.

    • Cody Ryan Kent

      Can’t stand the thought of not being able to trick and trap straight men, huh?

      • Emily Wells

        Through-out my life I have noticed two items about so-called strong alpha straight men. Either (1) they have discordance about their own gender identity and find comfort in hiding behind a Transphobic facade; or (2) due to the discord with their sexuality they portray alpha male tendencies and find comfort in hiding behind a Homophobic facade. Interestingly these two trends are also confirmed in research.

        Now given your Transphobic comment – I guess your a category 1 alpha male huh?

        O’ and to answer your question. Given I am a lesbian I am not interested in men. That’s right I sleep with the same cis-females you do!

        • No

          So you’re just a straight male basically

          • Emily Wells

            What a typically male response! OK, lets see if you can get past the male superiority part and handle something that’s fairly simple and straightforward. I am a Transwoman, I experience romantic love and sexual attraction to other females so I am a lesbian (i.e. a female homosexual).

          • No

            You’re a typical male. You have an XY Chromosome.

          • Emily Wells

            First, I can see that you are now being deliberately Transphobic, which btw is a hate crime. Given you do not put forward your name, or any other identifying material, you are either a very violent person in real life or you are very shallow and unsure of yourself. Truth be known, you probably haven’t gone through puberty yet. Now to humour your question:

            1. The definition of transgender in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is: of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity differs from the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth; especially : of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity is opposite the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth: transsexual. So as a transsexual I am hardley ‘a typical male’.

            2. What you have learnt at school that people have either XY (male) or XX (female) is not correct there are numerous variations. And no I don’t have XY chromosomes, I have a small variation.

          • No

            That definition is irrelevant. If you were born male (Penis) then thats what you are.
            There are not numerous variations except in your pseudo-science. When a variation occurs it is considered an abnormality and is extremely rare, usually resulting in afflictions like Down Syndrome. Very little to do with sexual organs.

            Im the violent and shallow person yet your intention is to find out my name so you can prosecute me for hate speech because i disagree with you on the internet. Yea im the shallow person. Irregardless of whether you are transgender or not, people who threaten others with “hate speech” are lower than dirt. A transgender person I can talk to despite not agreeing with them, a person like you I cant stomach existing on the same planet as.

            You need to stop focusing on the person you are on the outside and start thinking about who you are on the inside.

          • Emily Wells

            Dear No, It is very brave of you to admit that you are violent person and that you have other personal issues. Rather then condemn you, I urge you to seek and receive the help that you need to overcome your violent tenancies. I hope things improve for you and that you have a wonderful day. XXOO

          • No

            You’re nuts

          • Emily Wells

            Yeah. Crazy like a fox!

          • No

            Get well soon

          • whowantstoknow56

            Obviously, you’re man that thinks he’s a woman….

          • Emily Wells

            No I am female and I know I am a female as such I have commenced transitioning my body and will continue to correct the errors. I just label myself as a Transwomen so there is no misunderstanding.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Three only misunderstanding use in your brain… you are a male and the fact that doctors would enable your disorder shows how far the world has slid in morality

          • Emily Wells

            I find your remark really amusing: you are frequenting a web site that is obviously designed to enable males to trick and trap young females into having sex with them and you are concerned about the world’s morality lol

          • whowantstoknow56

            How is this article enabling males to trick and trap females?

          • Emily Wells

            To quote: “I publish a newsletter once a month with Game tips, what to text her, and advice on new tools you can use to score more dates.” So if you didn’t realise the purpose, means you haven’t looked through or around the web site. Is this the only article you have read?

          • whowantstoknow56

            So your saying helping men learn to communicate with women is bad and “tricks” women but vanity fair and all those other magazines and sites that tell women the same thing is ok?

          • Emily Wells

            You know as well I do this is not a website to lean to the skills required to communicate effectively. The word Player is constantly raised, the meaning: “A male who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex.”

            And comparing Vanity Fair that covers politics, entertainment, fashion, current social issues, beauty, ect to this trashy web site lol. BTW Since you are you into Vanity Fair go onto their website, search the word Trans or Transgender and read some the articles, you might learn how to treat transpeople with respect.

            Lets look at it logically, if a male learns to respect Transwomen they will find their your newly learned skills will help them play the game with Ciswomen.

          • Emily Wells

            Nice try with your play on words. I didn’t say article I said web site. As you know this article is one of many that is contained within this website. As you seem too literate to be that disingenuous, your here it’s an opportunity to troll or your here read the other articles and advise.

          • whowantstoknow56

            right, I’m on this website strictly to read this article….it wasn’t a play on words, it was telling you that you are assuming I’m doing something I’m not.

          • Emily Wells

            OK, I accept you here to just read this article. However, when your doing some future self-reflection, ask yourself why you felt compelled to stop write some derogatory comments about a fellow human being who just happens to be trans.

          • whowantstoknow56

            If facts are derogatory…so be it.. I’m not going to enable a mental illness.

          • Emily Wells

            The facts are, you didn’t need to stop and write anything . You could have thought to yourself. “I disagree with her, and although professional medical opinion indicates otherwise, I believe all the worlds medical experts are wrong and she is mentally ill.” and went on your merry way. However, you felt the need to stop write derogatory comments about another human being and then you question that person’s morality.

          • whowantstoknow56

            If I ignored it, that’s enabling.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Nothing I said was derogatory or directed specifically at you besides calling you a man.

            You are a man, regardless of your surgery or how you feel. That is not a derogatory statement that is a fact…..your chromosomes are the same as mine.

          • Emily Wells

            I am tired of stating the same message to you – writing, implying or saying that I am a man or that I am mentally ill is derogatory – end of story.

            As for your chromosomes being the same as mine, males have XY chromosomes and females XX chromosomes; I am intersex so I have a variance in my chromosomes, intersex people are as common as Redheads, so you may have the same variance as me or perhaps a different variance.

          • whowantstoknow56

            ALL chromosomal variations result in a form of mental disabilities, ALL are stated to either relating to a male or female.

            What is your variation?

            For Females the variations consist of how many X chromosomes there are. for example XXXY or XXXXY

            For males it’s how many Y Chromosomes

            XYYY or XYY

          • Emily Wells

            Not all chromosomal variations result in a form of mental disabilities. For example blonde, red and brown hair, and blue, green and grey eyes are from chromosomal variations. Using your flawed logic any person who does not have black hair and brown eyes has a mental disability.

            Also the intersex variations are far more expansive and complicated then your simplistic explanation. Males can inherit one or more extra X chromosomes or an extra Y chromosome. Females can be short an X chromosome or have an additional X chromosome. And than there are Tags that can also occur.

            Not that it is any of your business but I happen to be XY/XXY mosaic. Being intersex does not necessarily mean a person is transgender – it is different as chromosomes are related to birth gender and transgender is related to gender identity.The same as birth gender and gender identity has no bearing on sexuality.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Those aren’t caused by chromosomal variations those are caused by DNA variations…yes DNA are linked to genes and genes are linked to chromosomes….but your convoluting it to attempt to keep your fake reality going.

            Klinefelter syndrome (and this is a mild form) is when a MALE is born with an extra X chromosome…so yes you are a male that happens to produce less testosterone.

            That does NOT validate your mental illness.

            gender “identity” aka gender dysphoria is a mental illness. you can play these mental games with yourself but your won’t get but until you first admit you have a problem.

          • Emily Wells

            I notice four things about your responses:

            1. You continually shout by typing in capitals is if the only way you can communicate is by being overbearing and shouting i.e. does NOT validate.

            2. You consistently tell me that I have a mental illness and that I should admit I have a problem and get help.

            3. You constantly use words, phrases and language that you have been informed belittles and demeans me as a person. This is negativity is used with phrases such as ‘I accept’, ‘I am open’, ect

            4. When you attempt to validate your behavior towards trans people you bring obscure facts into the conversation, after information is provided you ignore that information and repeat 1. 2. and 3. above.

            I have provided substantial facts all of which you have ignored. For example, when told that I have sort expert help and am undergoing the treatment, as recommended by those experts, you immediately dismissed those experts as being wrong.

            I have attempted to be pleasant in my responses, you have viewed this as a weakness and used my congeniality as weapon against me. Over the last few days rather then discussing the published article and what is contained within that article, you have used this forum to continually attack me on a personal basis. You may like to consider using a self reflection exercise to evaluate your personal traits and behaviours.

          • whowantstoknow56

            1. Emphasizing words is not shouting. Context is relevant.
            2. Is true
            3. stating a fact is not belittling
            4. How can facts be obscure?
            You have stated chromosomal anomalies as a fact…. which is true.
            You’ve started gender identity is how you feel, this is called gender dysphoria and is a mental illness.
            When have I ever used your kindness against you. I have not been belittling, I have been direct and have left emotion out of it.
            Never attacked you, telling someone they have a mental illness, when they do, is not a personal attack…. it’s a notification.

          • Emily Wells

            Again the passive-aggressive. You may like to consult someone about your personality disorder i.e. mental health.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Being direct is the antithesis of passive-aggressive

          • “people have either XY (male) or XX (female) is not correct there are numerous variations. And no I don’t have XY chromosomes, I have a small variation.”

            Indeed there are XX/XY mutations manifesting as genetic abnormalities, each with their own spectra of symptoms and prognosis, which one do you have?


          • Phobias are not crimes.

          • Emily Wells

            I didn’t say Phobia. And you are in the UK I think so: Transphobia has been defined by the Crown Prosecution Service as “the fear of or a dislike directed towards trans people, or a fear of or dislike directed towards their perceived lifestyle, culture or characteristics, whether or not any specific trans person has that lifestyle or characteristic.”

          • The CPS are not medically qualified.

          • CPS are not psychiatrists. It’s not illegal to dislike people in the UK. Citizens in the UK are free to dislike who they please.

          • whowantstoknow56

            A) he’s not being transphobi
            B) phobias are not crimes
            C) calling a spade a spade is not hateful

          • Emily Wells

            Please do some research. Once completed you may actually be able to put forward a logical argument.

          • whowantstoknow56

            I have you are a male

          • quinyus

            Arguing with someone who suffers from gender dysphagia about gender is as pointless as arguing against a child that believes the tooth fairy

          • Dysphagia? It’s nothing to do with unease over eating.

            Perhaps you mean Dysphoria or Dysmorphic spectrum.

            Sexologist Dr Ken Blanchard has a theory it may be linked to the Autism spectrum.

          • qbert

            You’re a man posing as a woman and having sex with women. Does that not prove that you are mentally defective? Why do you feel the need to pretend to be a woman? What scares you about being the male you actually are? Is it just a way to get laid by women afraid of men? Are you simply afraid of other men? You seriously don’t see you’re crazy??

          • Emily Wells

            OK. After considering this for some time, I have decided to ignore your transphobic comments and at least provide an intelligent answer to your ranting in the hopes that you are able to actually process some knowledge to gain basic understanding.

            From your answer it appears that you do not have an understanding of the difference between gender and sexuality. There are several aspects to gender including birth, identity and expression. I was born biologically male, by age 7 years I knew I was female and I dress and present feminine. Sexuality develops later in your teen years, it is who you are attracted to and who you have sex with.

            Now, the original article is about how transwomen (yes I am a transwoman) are presenting as female and by not declaring their transgender status ‘trick’ guys into being with the. This is based on the belief that the only reason transwomen exist is because we want to have be with guys and need to trick them to succeed.

            So I have been open about my transness, however I have expressed that I am not interested in guys. This goes completely against your simple thought processes, so to protect your manliness you feel that the only conclusion is that I am trans to trick women who don’t want to be with men. So your conclusion is if I don’t admit I am trans I am being tricky and deceptive and if I do admit I am trans I am being tricky and deceptive.

            Now on being scared of men. Obviously I am not afraid of men. I have been debating with several males on this page now for sometime and all of you have come off a very poor second. Of course debating requires the use of intellect – ah yeah, sorry, I forgot those who actually believe the dribble written by this author are lacking in this trait.

          • Phobias

          • whowantstoknow56

            There is no difference between gender and sex.

            You didn’t KNOW you were female…you “felt” like you were because you suffer from a mental illness called gender dysphoria.

            That’s like a 15 year old saying they feel like they are really 21 years old so they can buy alcohol….

          • quinyus

            A biological series of mutations prevents Emily from embracing itself as a natural male it is a brain mental disorder therefore trans people are actually forced to hate their biological bodies rather than forced to the wrong body more like wrong brain they have no control over it sadly

          • No, a XY male desiring sex with XX women is straight or Bi.

          • whowantstoknow56

            No you are a guy with a mental issue called gender disphoria.

            Mr. Garrison….please leave Mr. Hat at home on your next date.

        • No

          And by the way the whole “They dont like it so they must secretly like it thing” is just moronic.
          I guess arachnophobics just secretly want to fuck spiders in your world.

          • Emily Wells

            OMG! Wow! What is that all about!

          • Phobias of spiders is a real Phobia.

            Phobias of those who have had sex changes? I’ve not heard anyone diagnosed with that one.

          • I was unaware everyone who said they were scared of spiders or the dark had a diagnosis.


          • It’s not moronic, it’s been verified scientifically through controlled studies. I think you object because you like the cock. I used to object for the same reason. *kisses*

        • BetaLimaSierra

          By looking at your pic, I don’t think you’d be able to fool anyone. XD

          • Emily Wells

            I am not certain of what you mean with your statement.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            You look like a man in drag. It’s not hard to figure out.

          • Emily Wells

            So it has taken you 6 days to clarify your statement with yet another transphobic response. I guess thinking about my response made in these comments about the intelligence of this author and the readers herein I shouldn’t be surprised.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Its transphobic to point out you look like a man in drag?
            And sorry it took six days sir. Some of us can’t sit around online, searching for articles to purposely offend us.
            Some of us have jobs.
            You should try it.

          • Emily Wells

            Quick question if I may; Are you a TERF?

            Also not sure what you want me to try.

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Nope. Im not a feminist. I have a life and am much more classy than that.

          • You’ve stated you’ve no psychiatric qualifications therefore how can you diagnose a Phobia?

        • You’re diagnosing Phobias again.

          • LOL @ phobias needing to be diagnosed by a professional, hahahahahahah.

            “No, timmy. no nightlight for you. you don’t have a phobia of the dark. no diagnosis! haha!”

          • Let’s not conflate dislikes or mental discomfort over Phobias. Phobias are a deep seated aversion and or morbid paralysing terror that disrupts the sufferer’s life that requires extensive progressive exposure therapy.

            Howard Hughes had a Phobia for example

            Folk by and large do not have Phobias of gays, devout religious people or a personal issue with them and other demographics, but like anyone else, dislike them when it disrupts everyone elses lives or some in that group do extreme or unreasonable things.

            And of course, the squeakiest wheels get all the attention and oil.

            sexuality, ones sex and religion are like penises.

            It’s fine to have one, even be a little proud of having it, but you don’t get it out in public, wave it around with a “look at meeee, look at meee” parade and shove it down others throats.

            Yes, we get you are a Christian or Muslim and that you think Jesus or Mohamed is the best thing since sliced bread.

            We get that you’re Gay, we get that you’re genderfluid, or otherkin, pansexual or whatever,

            Go you. You be you.

            Nobody cares. What do you want, a Junior G-Man badge?

        • whowantstoknow56

          You don’t know what transphobic means…you are using it incorrectly….if he were attacking you or running from you screaming in fright STRICTLY due to your following through with your mental disorder..then yes he would be transphobic.

          So settle down using that word sir, you’re making it meaningless.

          Also, your using the word Alpha incorrectly.
          Alpha’s males are spot a mile away by females…their calm yet radiate presence in a room attracts everyone’s attention. They are like magnets.

          Very few people have this gift…I would assume less of the population than those that suffer from gender disphoria.

          • Emily Wells

            Considering you miss-gendered me deliberately I could be a bitch and respond with something like: Your response indicates that you are either a female without empathy which is extremely rare or a Beta Male trying to bet the Alpha Males. However, I am not so childish, so lets get to case in point. Definition of transphobia as described in Merriam-Webster: “irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against transgender or transsexual people”. Now I am aware that I have written this previously however I understand that such complex definitions take time to comprehend.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Gender and sex are the same

    • qbert

      Laughable! You say alpha males have small penises, when, in actuality, it’s the mentally defective trans that do (either by nature or surgery). Trans = deception

      • Emily Wells

        Do I spot a bit of hypersensitivity. Did the comment about alpha males being small hit a nerve?

        • Eric Rahnaratentah Ryder

          No matter what gender you are or what you prefer be labeled there’s one thing that stands above all that is you are human and nothing else matters. Yes I’m a guy, a loner, a social outcast, a nice guy everyone hates the ultimate misfit who will likely die alone. But I still see goodness in everyone and you should be happy with the skin you own.

          • No

            good god

    • This is hardly constructive.

      • Emily Wells

        If you are talking about the above conversation with No I agree, it was not constructive conversation hence the reason I stopped engaging.

  • Jarell Johnson

    Lots of strait men don’t want to date transgenders. Some will feel so violated, and disgusted they might attemp to hurt or kill one if tricked, and accidentally aroused by what they thought to be a female.

    • Emily Wells

      Lets look at this statement: 1. “…hurt or kill one if tricked ..”, if anything men with this type of thinking just want an excuse to be violent and abusive. Let’s changed the word ‘one’ from meaning a Transperson to being a non-white, a non-christian, a female who isn’t totally submissive, ect. 2. ‘”… accidentally aroused …”, this doesn’t happen by accident it’s called biology and occurs with physical or psychological stimulation, or both. 3. “… thought to be a female …”, that statement is intended to and is made to specifically label a group of people as being less than human, i.e. sub-humans. It is used to give reason for discrimination, isolation, exclusion and violence against a group of people with the excuse that the group does not have characteristics that are considered ‘normal’.

      • qbert

        No. You’re wrong. Men are aroused by sight. If a man pretends to be a female, and another man is deceived by the ruse, it stands to reason that the deceitful male will garner reprocusion. Non-gay men should have the right to NOT BE GAY.

        • Emily Wells

          Men like women are aroused by sight and touch and thought, for example, sight is getting aroused watching others having sex, touch is physical i.e. caressing your partner and thought is thinking about sex or erotica. Nobody said all men have to be gay, a cis-male falling for a transwomen is not homosexual. If it is what do you consider a cis-male falling for a transman to be – heterosexual?

          • whowantstoknow56

            No, it is homosexual.

            Just because they have a mental disorder where they think they are the other sex doesn’t ACTUALLY make them the other sex.

          • Emily Wells

            We actually don’t have a metal disorder where we think we are the other gender. The condition is called Gender Dysphoria, a medical condition which btw treatment is to transition to the right gender. Don’t just believe me, google Gender Dysphoria and check it out – educate yourself you will find you are a better person afterwards.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Yes it’s a mental disorder where you think you were something you aren’t

          • Emily Wells

            I do not have a mental disorder. Also I know who I am. I am confident and outgoing transwomen. However considering the number of times I have explained Gender Dysphoria to you without success, I suspect you may have a learning difficulty.

          • whowantstoknow56

            You say gender and sex are different – false
            You say you are a women – false – the only female chromosomes are in your sperm (unless you medically castrated yourself)

            Gender dysphoria is a mental disorder where you believe you incorrectly are a member of the opposite sex

            You are a male that society has enabled to pursue mutilation of oneself in order to fit their incorrect mental view of themselves.

            That is wrong of society.

            Note: I am fine with a person doing whatever they want to themselves. I don’t care
            The problem(s) I have
            Society enabling the perpetuation of a mental disorder
            You attempting to tell me something you are not and have me acknowledge that.

            So go chop off whatever body part you want, add body parts all you want, call yourself a dog/tree/whale/female/ostrich I DON’T CARE, just don’t expect me to play along with your game.
            regardless of what you do, if I see you in a street I WILL say that Dude is messed up in the head.

          • Emily Wells

            OK you have decided to just write and spew words without thought or consideration. But I am patient so to work through your points above:

            1. Sex = male and female; Gender = masculine and feminine. So in essence: Sex refers to biological differences – chromosomes, hormonal profiles, internal and external sex organs; and Gender describes the characteristics that a society or culture delineates as masculine or feminine.

            2. If reread everything I have told you, I have been open and state that I am a Transwomen. Meaning my gender identity is feminine. As explained being Transgender were a person has a disconnect between their birth gender and gender identity, although not common is not rare. Gender dysphoria, which is a medical condition, can be a result of being Transgender. Depending on the persons severity, treatment may include transitioning to the persons Gender Identity.

            3. See point 2.

            4. See point 2.

            5. You state: “I am fine with a person doing whatever they want to themselves. I don’t care …”, however your words, attitudes and responses are in direct conflict with these words.

            What is obvious is you have difficulty coming to terms with the facts that demonstrate that the world is more complex then what you have learned. These facts are creating a mental anguish for you, given the tone of your words I suspect that these concepts are creating stress and anxiety,. You probably should consider some coping strategies before you have depression.

            6. See point 5. Additionally, the threat in your message of public behaviour that will intentionally cause hurt to another human being, demonstrate you have traits and characteristics of Bullying type behaviour. Think about working on your emotional intelligence.

          • whowantstoknow56

            Sex and Gender are the same UNLESS you have a mental disorder…I WILL NOT enable or promote mental disorders for the sake of making people feel comfortable for having one.

            Like I said do whatever you want, I can tolerate that. BUT don’t expect society nor any individual to ACCEPT a mental disorder as a normal thing. It isn’t, it’s a disorder for a reason.

            No mental anguish, no anxiety…more of a compassion in hopes that you receive the mental assistance you need to overcome this disorder.

            Making someone do marshmellow/banana/chocolate butt race 6 miles down a mountain against 6 other guys in winter, making the loser eat the object stuck up the others asses, and then proceeding to paddle all of them until they bleed then driving off and leaving them to walk 10 miles into town IS BULLYING.

            Hurting someone’s feelings because you are telling them that you will not accept and will not call them what they want to be called and encouraging them to get psychiatric help for their disorder is ANYTHING BUT bullying.

          • Emily Wells

            We seem to be going through the same type of dialogue. I have respond to similar gratuitous remarks made by you previously in other sections of this thread. When you decide to respond reasonably then, and only then, will I respond to your comments.

          • whowantstoknow56

            These are not gratuitous remarks whatsoever.

            I have responded reasonably….

            You believe you can choose your gender

            Well then why not your age?

            Why not your species?

            Why can’t you say your a cat and then you are a cat?

            Why can’t a 15 year old say they are 21 and then they are 21?
            They FEEL like they are 21, they could even LOOK like they are 21.

            Why not say you are 9,000 years old because you feel that way then you could be the oldest person ever in history and have your name put down in the record books

            Why can’t you say you are a gazelle and go graze with the gazelles in Africa?

          • No, you’re not being reasonable at all, faceless coward.

          • whowantstoknow56

            How have I not been responsible?

      • “… if anything men with this type of thinking just want an excuse to be violent and abusive.”

        That would assume we have powers of mind reading.

        No, it’s not that, it’s a sense of deep aversion that is hardwired, it has to be as our genomes survival depends on it.

        As a straight guy, my feelings of attraction and repulsion are so profound in my being, from a purely sexuality front I find XX women attractive, XY men repellent, and XY Transwomen repellent. It’s like looking into the abyss.

        Repellent from a moral or ethical perspective? No, simply repellent from a genetic perspective. To be blunt, I don’t want to have any sexual intimacy with them at ALL, not for a billion pounds, not in a million years. Yes, even Blaire White, Theryn Meyer at al.

        Why? because I would not be able to have children with them, at base.

        Straight men are by and large fine with Trans folk, they are however irritated by this phenomenon because of the deception involved when it impinges on their personal lives and it wastes their time and the trans persons time. Here’s one major cogent example of socialising – dating:

        Online Dating apps, where -to use Tinder & OK Cupid for example- even if you pick what you are looking for, you STILL get candidates that you are NOT looking for and more importantly paid good money to Tinder or OKC to have represented to you. (And this goes for women, Gay men & women and Transfolk too), because too many are not being honest, with themselves or others by NOT selecting the correct category.

        Can only speak for straight men, but if I’d pick pick “Looking for …Women”…

        on a drop down list of “Men, Women, Gay Men, Gay Women, TransMen, TransWomen”…

        Then Women is what I expect to see and have paid to see. Anything other than that may be deceptive trade practices under the UK Trade Descriptions Act 1968, Section 13 & 14. In other words, a “Bait & Switch” in this case.

        If folk want to have surgery -or whatever- they want to do as adults, fine
        “you do you”, as the phrase goes. Yes, a Trans person may BELIEVE that they are biologically opposite of what a basic cheek swab DNA XX/XY genome test will confirm, but it is unethical in the extreme to rope others into that Delusion also.

        Tinder & OK Cupid, are, from accounts of a few male & female friends in a number of large metropolitan cities around North America, clogged with users who do not select the category germane to them.

        Anyone that is attracted to men or women, sexuality or yes Transfolk, would be understandably annoyed at their limited matches being used up by candidates they never specified. Even angry, especially if they have wasted time & money on a wild goose chase

        That doesn’t seem unreasonable to me – heck, you even get dating sites for gay folk, and Transfolk, so, by all means, use THEM. It makes it far easier.

        Here’s an illustration that’s the best I can think of off the top of my head. I walk into a Greengrocers to buy some apples and bananas, I select ones that appeal to me, when I get to the checkout I discover they are not Apple apples and Banana bananas, but wax apples and wax bananas.

        I have NOTHING against wax fruit, but if I want to buy wax fruit I will visit a store that sells them to buy them, not a Greengrocers.

        • Emily Wells

          I like most of your statement and agree that transwomen (and trans men) should be open. The reason most transwomen (and transmen) are not open is because if they are open about being trans they are extremely likely to experience hatred and violence etc.

          Jarell Johnson wrote, “Lots of strait men don’t want to date transgenders. Some will feel so violated, and disgusted they might attemp (sic) to hurt or kill one …”. Lots of strait men also like women with larger breasts, so if they get home and discover the she has ‘added’ to her breast size with padding, does this give him the right to do violence onto her. Or if the guy is attracted to a female with beautiful long blonde curls and when they them get home they discover she is wearing a wig and has no hair due to cancer treatment – does this give him the right to do violence onto her.

          Of course it doesn’t violence is unacceptable, after all just because you purchased the wrong fruit doesn’t turn you into a violent and uncontrollable person.

  • BetaLimaSierra

    Should add for the ladies on how to spot an ftm.
    1)scars on the pecs and oddly placed nipples. If they have scars and their nipples look strange, and you can’t quite figure out why, chances are they are an ftm.
    2)bone structure: even women with the largest bone structures do not have the same structure as men. this can be having womanly hips and shoulders that are narrow. Also look at the jaw.
    3)large scar or tattoo on somewhere on their arm or leg (you can easily tell if a tattoo has gone over scarred skin): They remove this to create a fake penis (if they choose to do that).
    4)If they get naked and they have a micro penis (combined with everything I just mentioned) you have undeniable proof. Sometimes they dont go full on bottom surgery and just have their clits snipped free and urethra rerouted to have a “functional” penis to at least pee standing up.

    Now, if you are trans, have at it. Be trans. I don’t care, but stop demanding and stop trying to and stop thinking its okay to fool people who aren’t into that. Its not okay. There are plenty of people out there into that sort of thing. Date them.
    And stop getting mad when people who arent into it find ways to tell you are. It keeps us from being dragged into something we arent into.
    Inb4: “but if you liked me before you knew I was trans youre just transphobic”
    If it makes you feel better to think that, fine.

    • Emily Wells

      Your comments regarding transmen is accurate in some instances though not accurate in all instances. When read in context with your second paragraph about trans people it reads as though that you have been in a gay or bi relationship possibly with a transman. Hey, its OK to explore your sexuality. Lots of guys like you have had or want to have sex with someone of their own gender. If you need to find a therapist who you can talk with as what you feel is perfectly normal, OK.

      • BetaLimaSierra

        Nope. I have only banged real men, thanks. Real men, with real penises that they were born with.
        Tis my sister that would have been tricked by a tranny had I not pointed out the scars on her chest and the huge tatted over scar on her back.

        • Emily Wells

          So your either gay or bi but still transphobic. OK. Whatever. (She writes while laughing quietly to herself)

          • BetaLimaSierra

            Ya know, that word is slung around so much, it seriously doesn’t bother me. I was considering getting it on a t-shirt.

            And If I have only banged men, how in the world can I be gay? XD I was born with a vagina. Meaning I am a woman.
            A real one. 🙂 sorry bro. None of your attempted insults offend.

          • Emily Wells

            Sure you are – not.

          • whowantstoknow56


          • Emily Wells

            Troll? Hardly! Sorry burst your bubble buddy! But I am a real transwoman, living a real life in the real world and not some random cowardly hiding with a non-profile making random remarks.

          • whowantstoknow56

            You are a man

          • Emily Wells


          • WhoWantsto isn’t wrong.

          • You wouldn’t be able to tell i real life.
            Just like we probably wouldn’t be able to tell you’re a douchebag.
            But maybe you do look like one, and that’s why you have no pic?

          • whowantstoknow56

            Actually it’s very easy to tell.

            Pot calling the kettle black

          • Phobias are psychiatric disorders, I gather you’re an MD in this field to make that diagnosis?

          • Emily Wells

            No I am not a Psychologist or Medical Practitioner.

            Definition from the Cambridge Dictionary
            – transphobia: a fear or dislike of transgender people
            – transphobic: (adjective) transphobic jokes

          • The psychiatric definition is the medically accepted, not the popular lexicographic.

          • Emily Wells

            Medically it is gender dysphoria: meaning the condition of feeling one’s emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one’s biological sex. Transphobia and transphobic are words in the English dictionary with the definitions as given. BTW lexicographic means lexicographic order (also known as lexical order, dictionary order, alphabetical order or lexicographic(al) product) is a generalisation of the way the alphabetical order of words is based on the alphabetical order of their component letters.

          • I’m considerably more familiar with the psychiatry on these issues than the average man in the street. I prefer psychiatric definitions of Phobias, not lexicographic, and practitioners do not use the OED in diagnosis and treatment, but the DSM-IV-TR (2000) & V and PDR .
            (Note Bene: DSM-V (2013) not available online as of this date)

            DSM-IV-TR (2000):

            JBP certainly does not have a Phobia of gay, Bi men/women or Trans folk. It is is likely he encounters/has encountered and treats/has treated a number in his clinical practice.

            Neither do I for that matter. Complete Indifference? Usually. Sexual repulsion at most? Yes, of course. Irrational fear or avoidance or anxiety? Absolutely not. The notion that people actually FEAR gay, Bi and Trans folk? That would be odd. Moreover we should be cautious to avoid conflating simple dislikes or preferences with Phobias.

            JBP has sat down in a long mutual one on one discussion with an audience on The Oedipal Mother with Theryn Meyer ( https://www.youtube.com/user/DominoDiaeresis ), AND been interviewed by Meyer AND appeared in televised panel discussions.


            Oedipal/Devouring Mother:

            Meyer’s testimony (along with JBP and Dr Gad Saad in a fuller video) at the Bill C-16 Senate Hearing:

            I discuss chaos and order with Theryn Meyer:

            Genders, Rights and Freedom of Speech :

            Notable for the surreal assertion by academic Nicholas Matte that there is no such thing as Biological sex, during a now-infamous panel discussion on preferred pronouns (if that’s the case, how does the Animal & Plant Kingdom reproduce?).

            Dr. Jordan Peterson Chats with a Reasonable Trans Person

            I’m Trans, and I Love Jordan Peterson:

          • I’m aware of this.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol

            So…if he/she doesn’t want to be lied to… He/she is… a transphobic?

          • Emily Wells

            In answering a number of people, I have written in a lot of my responses that words certain words and they way they are used can cause hurt. When deliberately used to cause hurt and the person is aware that it will have negative outcomes on the person that behaviour is bullying, harassment and victimisation.

            Transphobia is a range of negative attitudes, feelings or actions toward transgender or transsexual people, or toward transsexuality. Transphobia can be emotional disgust, fear, violence, anger or discomfort felt or expressed towards people who do not conform to society’s gender expectations.

            So it is not that they didn’t want to be lied to, it is that they clearly behaved in a manner to deliberately cause hurt to people who are trans.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol

            Here’s the reality: some trans are not open or honest about them being trans.
            Some trans are not even attracted to another trans, yet they expect heteros to date them or otherwise they’re transphobes (?)
            What about trans who lied or hide their identity? Don’t you think that’d hurt the person they’ve been seeing?
            People have preferences. Let’s get that straight (no pun intended). Some people are just not into trans, just like some people are not into dwarf or obese people. Deal with it.
            Nobody’s trying to hurt anybody. Life is just that tough. We will always get hurt one way or another. Everyone has their own struggles in life. There’s no safe space. If you are trans, own it. Don’t hide it, don’t lie about it.

          • Emily Wells

            The question of if Transsexuals should disclose their status to a date is always a hot topic in our community.

            My viewpoint, considering the hatred directed at trans people and the violence perpetrated against trans people, is to disclose upfront. Also I am proudly transgender and as you put it I own. However, if you read the responses on this site, the mere fact that I admit I am Trans opens the door to vilification.

            Yes life is tough however to say nobody is trying to hurt anybody means you have no idea of the amount of discrimination, harassment, vilification and violence trans people cope with on a daily basis.

            Stating that life is tough and we all will always get hurt one way or another, ect, ect, implies we should accept behaviour that degrades us as a person. So should non-white people accept such behaviour, should non-Christians accept such behaviour, what about women if they are being bashed by their partners, should they just accept this behaviour. No, of course not. No one should accept behaviour that degrades another human being, it is simply not acceptable in a modern society. So why is it deemed to be acceptable to degrade a transperson – is because we are seen by society to be a lesser human being?

            If you are interested this is part of the debate that is within our community on disclosure and dating: http://www.theodysseyonline.com/no-dont-have-to-tell-you-im-trans-before-dating-you

          • The online dating disclosure isn’t the problem for everyone, it’s the wasting of the matches folk pay for on apps et al in wasted time or money clogged with folk that pick the incorrect category…that’s the infuriating point.

            Speaking for straights, men in particular are abandoning online dating and going back to in field dating to avoid this. Which is kind of ironic as men use online dating to bulk sort candidates and cut out the shilly shallying. Unfortunately in field can be considerably dearer

          • Not at all, they want their genome to survive.

          • I’m not fat I’m just curvy lol


        • That was a close shave (literally)

    • Youfucking pig

      You are a sick ignorant sexist who is afraid of anything that you don’t understand. Like all the idiots who have been in this planet and didn’t contribute anything but to share their idiotic hateful shortcomings.
      You are sick! Men who are afraid of anything they don’t understand!
      You don’t have any right to open your dirty mouth and throw your idiotic frears at people? Like I don’t go around and tell people with less iq, like you, that they are retards and that there is nothing they can do about it. So just shut up your little monkey like brain. Your iq shouldn’t be more than 99. And that is so hard to live in this word and be a fucking retard; in that case I understand your bullshit. But again, try not to listen much to that little brain of yours! And I’m sure I’m not the first person telling you this.
      I rather die but not to be born with a low IQ. It feels very intimidating to know that you are closer to a monkey than a genius like me to you!
      Never underestimate the probability of stupidity!

  • Emily Wells

    This article insinuates that are hordes of transgender women hiding in the general population and waiting to trick straight males. So, I am hoping this response will clear away any confusion readers have by providing you with correct information to ease your concerns. Though before I start, I am going to be fully open, so that you are fully aware and do not feel that I am tricking, or attempting to trick, you as the reader.

    My name is Emily Wells and I am a transwoman. This means I was genetically born a male however my gender identity is female and I am transitioning to my correct gender. So I live my life as a woman and my pronouns are she, her, hers.

    Transgender is an umbrella term and means any person whose gender identity is varied to that of their birth gender. An estimated 3% to 5% of the population are transgender to some degree, in Australia that’s about 735,000 to 1,225,000 people. Given the population size, the reality is you have met, are friends with and know transgender people.

    So, unless you live as a hermit on a remote cliff top, or live under a rock on Mars, you will have come in contact with people who are transgender – either at your workplace, at a non-work gathering like your gym, your sports club or other social club, at a party, at a night club or sporting event, and even when you are out having a drink at your local pub. Hell, if you are male and actively dating, the probability is that you have already dated a transgender person without even knowing that they were transgender. That’s right they were born female and look female though have concerns about their gender identity.

    Being transgender can and does cause Gender Dysphoria (GD), a medical condition that results in real pain, distress and angst for the individual suffer. If the GD is to the extreme, the only treatment for the individual is to transition from one gender to another. In fact, prior to making a decision to transition, a substantial number of those with severe GD, had reached a situation where GD had made the person so highly stressed that they had high anxiety with depression and thought about and/or attempted suicide.

    A transgender person who transitions, or is transitioning, is known in medical terms as a Transsexual. Now not every person who is transgender and transitions or transitioning considers themselves as a transsexual. However from a medical perspective, this is the person the above article alludes towards – and what all you ‘manly-men’ seem to be shit-scared-off. So, the fact is that we do not transition to ‘trick’ anybody, we transition to live as our true gender (or gender identity) and by doing this it also assists in stopping the pain and mental angst that accompanies GD.

    Transsexuals consist of about 0.3% of the transgender population, so in Australia there are about 2,205 to 3,675 people who are considered transsexual. There are 2.5 transwomen for every transman, so using the higher estimated population number of 3,675 transpeople, we can extract that there are approximately 2,625 transwomen within Australia.

    Now, although there are clusters within our State Capital Cities, transwomen are geographically dispersed across the nation. Now you must also consider that transwomen are distributed across all sexualities. So using a 2012-2013 study of the non-trans population as a guide, we can estimate that 96.3% (2,528) transwomen are heterosexual i.e. sexually attracted to men. Further, transwomen are represented in all age groups from 16 to 106, so unless you’re into kiddies and grannies (in which case you are one very sick puppy) the probability of you actually encountering a Transwoman publicly at a club or the pub is very small. That is unless of course you are frequenting gay bars and clubs, now I am not going to judge you, but don’t hide behind your transphobia and say “I didn’t know they were trans – I was tricked.” Yeah, sure you were.

    Now for a transwoman to ‘hide’ and not be judged they must appear as extremely feminine, in fact to ‘pass’ a transwoman must look like cis-gender model. If this were applied equally to cis-women and cis-men then the vast majority would also not pass as ‘real’ women or ‘real’ men.

    This is why passing is such a controversial topic. The term itself is loaded, tainted with the implication that transwomen aren’t really women, and trans men aren’t really men, but are merely trying to pass off as such and engaging in deception. But despite the questionable meaning behind ‘passing’, there is a reality as there are those with “passing privilege” and those without – and the difference in the quality of life is overwhelming.

    In reality only a very small percentage (less than 5%) of Transwomen can pass as a cis-gender female and live their life in relative ‘normality’. The truth for the remainder (95%+) of transwomen can be extrapolated from the results of a number of surveys and studies.

    The unemployment rate for transwomen is at triple the rate of the general population with a 2015 study showing that 26% lost their job due to being trans. One-fifth (20%) have experienced homelessness at some point in their lives – this is 20 times the rate of the general population. A 2015 study reported that 20% of trans people experience housing discrimination and were evicted or simply denied housing for being transsexual. Life so great for transwomen and transmen that a 2014 mental health study found that a staggering 41% had attempted suicide, compare this to the general population where only 1.6% of the general population have attempted suicide.

    So, the reality for the vast majority of transwomen is a life where we face harassment, discrimination, isolation and violence or the threat of violence on a daily basis. Tricking you is not at the top of our priority list – survival itself is at the top of our priority list.

    This brings up the question of why Mr Brock Robinson as the author wrote this article. One thing is clear prior to writing and publishing this article, Mr Brock Robinson conducted no research into the lives of transwomen – indeed it appears that Mr Brock Robinson has decided to use a myth and to actively harass and discriminate against transwomen. These myths all have one thing in common – they justify the subjugation of transmen and transwomen. They have originated from a calculated collection of stereotypes that serves to maintain the status-quo for people, like Mr Brock Robinson, who are intolerant towards people who do not meet their perception of what constitutes a ‘normal human’.

    However, fair is fair. Given Mr Brock Robinson is an educated and publish author and I am merely a transwoman who has set out to trick and trap Mr Brock Robinson, I challenge Mr Brock Robinson to travel to Australia and publicly debate me in an acceptable arena about his article and his respect (or otherwise) for transgender people.

    • Just a moment, “An estimated 3% to 5% of the population are transgender …” what data is being cited here? That figure seems rather high (I gather it’s for Australia?), as Dr Jordan Peterson, a Canadian Clinical Psychologist based in Toronto gives a figure of 0.3% of the population, though am unsure whether he is referring to The USA or Canada.

      I would posit that given the 0.3% incidence of the phenomena in US or Canadian Populace (perhaps it refers to North America as aggregate who knows), it would be in a similar ballpark in other nations, of perhaps up to 1%. Yet up to 5%? Even in my Home nation Britain, that is a LOT of folk.

      • Emily Wells

        Remember 3% – 5% is those that are transgender i.e. there is a variant between the persons birth gender and gender identity. It does not mean they are transsexual. 0.3% is the number of transsexual with the population.

        It is a well known fact that Dr Jordan Peterson a Right Wing Christian, anti LGBT and feels transgender are an abomination of God. Like the rest of his research, the number he cites is only from his formed opinion with no peer reviewed research.

        • “It is a well known fact that Dr Jordan Peterson a Right Wing Christian, anti LGBT and feels transgender are an abomination of God. Like the rest of his research, the number he cites is only from his formed opinion with no peer reviewed research.”

          JBP has not expressed these attributions in his lectures, debates or testimonies.

          Your allegation that the figure is his own, not a citation?

          • Emily Wells

            I quote “JBP has not expressed these attributions in his interviews lectures, debates or testimonies.” It is clear you have either never read Dr Jordan Peterson nor listen to him or alternatively you have decided to your ideological spin onto his material. Just type “Jordan Peterson” on transgender into google and plenty of his hate laden material is there for the reading/viewing.

          • On the contrary, I have seen ALL of JBP’s lectures, interviews and talks on ALL subjects he gives, and have learned more from him in two months than my entire time at University – I’m not exaggerating.

        • Keely Swan

          CmdrJonty is correct. Transgenders are only estimated to be roughly 0.3% of the population. Gays/lesbians are only estimated to be roughly 2% of the general population, and I know there aren’t more trans people than gays.

          • Emily Wells

            People who are Transgender are estimated to be around 5%-8% of the population; Transsexuals are about 0.3% of the population. LGB are about 3.5% of the population, although the B% is very uncertain due to Bi people being treated so negatively. Also interestingly for every Bi male there is about 10 bi females. The extreme variance is thought to be due to males seeing bi men as weaker (so bi males hide in the closest), while a large proportion of males have a fantasy involving them with two or more women doing sexual acts.

          • For 0.3% of demographic they are receiving a disproportionate amount of attention which, overwhelmingly, according to the many letters JBP receives, they don’t want.

            I think theres a sexologist that pioneering in findings on this, Ken or Ray Blanchard.

        • whowantstoknow56

          No there isn’t a variant….

          If you’re born a male you have ALL male chromosomes (with the exception of some of your sperm).

          • You obvoiusly don’t know about XY males. Happens when the adrenal gland produces testosterone in a fetus. You really don’t know shit. You can have either genitals regardless of your chromosomes. Not that it matters, it’s a douchey point to bring up anyway.

          • whowantstoknow56

            All males have XY chromosomes….that’s exactly the point.

    • I’d like to see that debate along with JBP, Theryn Meyer and Dr Blanchard

      • Emily Wells

        O right, I am too debate Dr Ray Milton Blanchard whose studies have been peer reviewed and his results were found to be fabricated to match the answers he was seeking. Theryn Meyer, a poor young impressionable female who because of her ability to pass easily, the poor girl she found herself aligned with anti-trans people and has been left out to dry on a number of occasions, including in September of this year when she was bullied into changing her mind.And your Toronto professor, Jordan Peterson, with his flawed logic.Is this because the Author is incapable of defending his views?

  • Larry Lovestein

    Why does Emily Wells feel compelled to educate us all about transgenderism? The article is spot on – I started to encounter a number of trans women on Tinder. Many of them though do mention on their profile that they are trans, so at least that’s cool. However, it is getting harder to discern when you meet women at clubs, etc. Some trans women pass exceptionally well as bio women; however some just look like men in dresses (e.g., Emily Wells).

    • There are many resources online that give tips on what to look out for and there are many, many tells. Always trust your instinct, particularly if you get what has been dubbed the ‘uncanny valley’ feeling.

    • Emily Wells

      You were actually doing really well in putting forward a position, until just had to be a negative person with the last part of your comment.

    • That’s the rub. If you realise 99.7% of occupants of a social sphere are NOT sexually attracted to you, and you attend for romantic reasons, so to speak, you’re wasting your time and other’s time.

      For the same from reason I dont attend gay men or women oriented bars. Opposite’s attract.

      I posit everyone on this thread understands completely that there are men and women who believe themselves to be the opposite, and that’s fine.

      They can believe that until Doomsday, but gay men and women aside, straight nen want genetic women and straight women want genetic men.

      The uncanny valley cannot be ignored. It’s hardwired and baked in for survival reasons.

      Believing myself to be a woman and getting a sex change wont change that.

      And here’s the rub JBP is driving at:

      Societies have mutually negotiated “rules” of “meta games”, negotiated and refined over centuries, even millennia in order to facilitate “play”, as it were.

      If one INSISTS that you or a subgroup have your OWN proprietary set of rules of the game, and INSIST others by and large change the fundamental rules of the game to accommodate you and your group, one can not tgen be surprised if others refuse to “play” with you.

      You become the kid that nobody wants to play with.

      Ya dig?

  • Mike

    I have just ended a very close and loving relationship with a beautiful and totally convincing transgender female, it was hot, loving, caring and she was as sweet as any CIS female I have ever known.

    My personal problem was her sex drive, initially I was full on into it but after time I got tired of her insatiable appetite and worst of all her obsession with cock. She seemed to be always on the lookout, her Facebook, Tinder and Whatsapp would bing all day and night.

    I really loved her (and still do) and when we split she was devastated but I had to get out to maintain my sanity.

    • Milo Yiannoppolous said “Trannies are gay”. I think Camille Paglia said something similar, so maybe that’s why HE was obsessed with men.

  • Lee Asch

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/707962b47b53365e42717be87ff039b7478bdf24b062de690c15f90a3b3e55b2.jpg Came across this article by accident. It is so stupid, I had to laugh…..and comment. First of all, I’m female….born that way & intend to stay that way….and just for the record, I like dick, straight as an arrow, but have nothing against gays. First of all , this whole adam’s apple thing is a myth. I was cursed with one so large, I was often asked if I had swallowed a golf ball. The only good thing about putting on a pile of weight ( I’m 54 years young) , is that it is now hidden under a roll of fat. About my hands, It’s just about impossible to find a woman’s ring in a 13. Trust me, I have tried. My feet aren’t exactly tiny either. I think the only way to really find out if a she is really a he, is to grab the bull by the horn, literally. If it has a dick, you have your answer. I’m not too sure I’m okay with this whole transgender thing. Gay, I can understand, but butchering up one’s body is not exactly my definition of sanity. I’m really not a fan of plastic surgery, either…..unless your face was messed up in an accident or something. I think the whole world has gone nuckin’ futs. Enjoy the pic…me at 15.

  • Martha-Sophie Sprucklick

    You are just a bigot and an idiot.

    Trans* women are women. Men who fall for women are called heterosexual; that means you are not suddenly gay because you find a trans* woman attractive.

    Of course a non-operated trans* woman should tell potential sex partners about her unusual anatomy before actually making out, and it is totally ok for men not to want to have sex with her because of that. But it is not a reason to kill her.

    Yes, to kill her.

    There is one, and only one reason for trans* folks, post-operative or not, to disclose their status even before a first date – they want to survive.

    Their little birth defect, when discovered, can drive some men truly crazy; crazy enough to earn themselves a knife to the heart. So it is definitely better to sort those out beforehand.

  • Youfucking pig

    You fucking pig! You think you are a man since you can walk on two legs?
    You are a fucking pig who needs to be slaughtered. Retard!